I can't cope with guilt over my grandads death. Are there those who visited dementia patient every other day while they were living alone? We were caregiving when my grandmother started having dementia and she was living alone always and with dementia for almost 15 years as well and she died only when she got to hospital at the age of 94. We visited her sometimes every other day sometimes every day. She was always eating, physically she was fine. When she got to hospital, she couldnt walk as we placed her into hospice. But she died there.Are there those who visited every other day grandparents who were/ are living alone?
I sat with my dad while mom was at work. When he was transferred to a care home I visited weekdays. Mom visited weekends and afternoons/nights. I've learned my lesson. Mom is in a good facility so I visit twice a week.
Dementia patients can be physically fine but mentally, they're very ill. Living alone is very dangerous for all dementia sufferers. My mother did not live alone for any of the years she was suffering from dementia, no.
Your grandmother likely died of age and dementia at 94, not hospice or the hospital doing anything to her.
My condolences on your loss.
At 94, she probably had a good life and I hope she didn't suffer. But if you have other grandparents, be aware of what they might be going through even though they say they are fine. No one with dementia should live alone. I'm sorry for your loss.
I was a homecare worker for a very long time before going into the business of it. I worked for many clients with some kind of dementia or other who were still living alone and whose families described them as 'Only needing a little help'. If they were driving I often heard, 'He/she doesn't go very far'. These are the excuses families will convince themselves of. They very rarely accept the truth in a situation when it comes to an elderly LO with dementia and it's usually one of these reasons why they don't. One, they do not want to disrupt their own lives by moving the person in with them or moving into the elder's home. Two, there isn't enough money for 24-hour homecare and the family doesn't want to lose the elder's assets if they have to get them placed.
The truth is your grandmother should not have been living alone and your family is very lucky a tragedy didn't happen. Your family visiting every other day is not the reason. It was pure dumb luck. Even if your grandmother could 'showtime' very well, if her family saw her and interacted with her as much as you say, they would have seen through it.
When a person's mind is going, they cannot be left on their own anymore. For the same reason why a child can't be left living on their own even if they have help.
You and your parents? You and siblings, or other family members? The answer makes a difference. If the other visitors were your Grandmother's PoA this would be important to know.
What is the reason to know about "visiting" a solo elder w/dementia every other day? Are you feeling guilty or second-guessing this arrangement?
Who was managing your Grandmother's affairs during those 15 years? If it wasn't you I'm not sure how it could possibly have been her. Were your parents doing it?