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My wife has dementia. For 6 years people didn't believe me. They got her an apartment, and I couldn't stop it, she moved out 3 months ago. 6 weeks ago, she fell and broke her hip and had to go to the hospital then rehab. They wouldn't let me visit her because she was telling them she didn't want me to be there. She is awfully influenced by other people's suggestions. I think that's where this not wanting me to visit came from. She seems very upset when my son asked if I could visit her, I think that she's probably mad because I'm not there to help her and this is where all her anger comes from. The nursing home is not helping, neither is it to the hospital. I read people can become a very fearful when someone they know is not there, maybe that's where this came from? Any thoughts appreciated. The nursing home has been very deceitful and unhelpful with my wife. I went to talk to the social worker one time and instead of talking to her they sent security and told me I had to leave and never could come back

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Yes, would be nice if you used punctuation.

Who is incharge of your wife's care? Who has Power of Attorney? Because if she has Dementia, someone has to be her Medical Power of Attorney.

There is a reason you are not being allowed to see her. Do you come off as aggressive when dealing with hospital staff? My Dad was a gruff man and could come off that way. You and son need to sit down and discuss why you cannot see Mom. Even with Dementia if she says no, that needs to be honored by the staff and son. You maybe a trigger. You and son need to sit down and discuss honestly what you are doing wrong for you to feel like the victim here. If you are thought to be a threat to your wife, you can be kept from seeing her.

You have Parkinson's and Dementia goes hand in hand with it, especially Lewy body. Lewy body affects the frontal lobe where emotions are. If you go to a Neurologist, maybe time to talk to him about medication.

I would say at this point, your wife may not be coming home because with your health problems, you can no longer care for her properly.
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She moved out, that was her choice. She got hurt, you're not to blame. She has a mental disorder and she doesn't want you to be there, you can't fix that. Somewhere along the line she became afraid of you and this is all she knows now. If you have power of attorney, you do have a right to see her but if you're being escorted out,it says something else. You've aggravated her condition and why would you want to cause her anymore problems? She's not likely to change the way she feels about you, if she does, she'll let you know.
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Please see your own doctor for a complete physical and ask for anxiety meds for yourself. Approaching the situation from a place of calm and goodwill could yield different results.
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ThereThere seems to be a Common Thread using police and security to get rid of caregivers this happened several times this is outright abuse it should be dealt with criminally you don't need a piece of paper to do the right thin you asked to see a social worker and you get a security guard and throw you out of the facility you asked to talk to her talk to her and you get the police to throw you out of their office at the hospital I asked to talk to her doctor instead I had the security throw me out of the hospital several times if your trouble with the police in my house I was always treated as a suspect not as a caregiver for some reason this seems to be very very wrong and someone should help me do it do something about it but how do you find a lawyer that's not connected with these people
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I am so sorry. Without punctuation, I cannot really make out this message well enough to give any meaningful answer.
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John there is OBVIOUSLY more to this story than what you have shared and I know that you posted on this forum before about your situation.
We on this forum can't really help you when we don't know the WHOLE story. I'm sorry that you're not able to see your wife, but from you have shared it must be for the best.
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