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Only one sister is POA and has any info about important last details and paperwork for mom, and she is not sharing any of it with us.

Mom needs to name a secondary, or backup POA in case the primary POA is unable to perform their function.
There should be a section on the POA form where the secondary person would be listed.
Your sister is not obligated to share any of mom's information.
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Reply to CaringWifeAZ
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If mom is competent still, which I'm guessing no, she could designate a backup. If she can't and there is no backup POA designated and something serious takes the POA sister out of the picture one of you will need to apply for guardianship, should you desire. For medical decisions many hospitals will take recommendations from next of kin regardless of POA status, but for anything financial it would have to be a guardianship situation.
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Ask your sister if something were to happen to her is there an alternate POA selected for your mothers sake. If the POA is trustworthy and ONLY looking at the best interest of the patient they should disclose this information willingly. And if there is a secondary POA, they should know how to access the information.

I am primary POA for my uncle and my father is secondary. I have fully disclosed the status and where to find all information to my father but I do not disclose anything to others. If another family member were to ask I would fully disclose the primary POA and secondary POA status and our responsibilities but nothing else detailed. It is the duty of the POA to preserve the privacy and wellbeing of the assigned person. This doesn't mean financial and/or medical disclosure is required if family members want to know. I am very selective on what I say to others especially if they only want to know the financial status of my uncle.
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Your Mom would need a legal guardian, so it would either be one of the other siblings or a court-assigned one. Pursuing guardianship personally is very expensive and time-consuming. But your sister cannot "pass on" PoA to anyone... this is something only your Mom can do. Ask your sister to read the document to see if Mom assigned any back-ups and under what conditions. A responsible PoA would at least tell others the location of the paperwork -- she doesn't have to actually show it to you.
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If your sister is sick or dying, I would sit down with her and explain your concerns about the future of your mom. If she is healthy, then she can refuse to share info with you as she is POA.
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Under the POA, your sister is not supposed to share information unless your mother authorizes her to. Have you asked your mother to tell you, or to give your sister permission?

If you are trying to find out information about your mother's will and estate, that does not fall under POA. POA expires when the person dies. After that, responsibility falls to the estate executor and, if she has a Trust, the trustee(s). Many people do assign POA and executor and/or trustee responsibilities to the same person, though. Again, if you sister is one or both of these, she should be respecting your mother's wishes on whether to share information or not.
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