He has Parkinson's and other issues. He cannot control his urine and currently wears an adult diaper, but does not remember to change it. He is not very active and mainly watches TV or sleeps. His hygiene is also lacking. He sometimes gets his own food, but I usually have to cook for him and remind him to eat.
Ask them for a needs assessment. This will help them help you and help you know what level of care your husband needs.
Be patient and persistent to get the help he needs, lest you fall ill from the stress and you both are up a creek.
May The Lord give you strength and guidance.
Is your husband a Veteran?
If so he may qualify for some or a LOT of services from the VA. And the VA is now paying spouses to provide care as well.
So if he is a Veteran contact your local Veteran Assistance Commission office and they can help determine what services he may qualify for