My mom is 88 and has had incontinence for a while…she lives with me in my walk out basement level. It smells often and it smells BAD. She often has UTIs and she can’t smell anything. I am finding that she’s now losing a lot of urine all over floor despite wearing a pad. I’m guessing it is shifting or maybe bunching up? She’s heavy of that makes a difference - about 60 inch waist, 245 pounds. Help! She doesn’t admit to any of this (in denial or embarrassed?) - it’s tough to live in these conditions and I don’t want to place her in AL.
ideas for tight fitting undies maybe? I wanna cry. I’ve washed so many waterproof pads, sheets, blankets
https://kleinerts.com/products/unisex-duralite-incontinence-briefs?variant=15019123671085
My sister, who is about the same size as your mom, uses these. They're expensive, but worth the cost if your mom has something against disposable briefs.
Gold Violin Independent Living Catalog.
I keep air fresheners going in all rooms. Although we don't have the leakage problem, her room can definitely take on a smell. I use scented trash bags and tie all waste up immediately. It is a continual battle.
For your sake, consider help. There are some great suggestions on here.
Best wishes to you.
Maybe you can find some info whether it would be suitable for you. Sorry I dont have any particulars about this device as my mom had a stroke while she was admitted to the hospital and only came home for a week of hospice care to be with family when she passed.
She had her 95th birthday while she was at a rehab facility. The stroke left her very much disabled and she just didnt have the strength or desire to keep fighting. I miss her a lot.
Charlotte
They are not good unless the patient is in bed , unless there are recent changes.
I'm surprised she is still alive being that corpulent. One fall with injury, chances are she will be bedridden for life.
I had to use about 6 diapers a day for my mom.
You can buy reusable bed pads--but the extra large ones. Go on Amazon. Wash them over and over again.
As for disposable pads, you need very large ones. Go to the pet store and get pads for dogs. They are large and much, much cheaper than the ones for humans--same materials too.
245 pounds isn't exactly call Dr. Now on '600-Pound Life' and it's a miracle they're still alive.
Most people at 88 who have a fall are at risk of becoming bedridden for life too.
She may need a pad in the Adult Diapers.
Mare sure she is wearing them.
Also make sure she is actually taking a shower every day.
Mare sure her pee Diapers are put in a plastic bag before being thrown away.
Use deodorizers that Remove the smell not cover it up.
I use Odor Eliminater
It’s heartbreaking to hear how this is affecting you-looking into AL now is a great suggestion as, most likely, you’ll need to act on moving her at some point. So many have waitlists too-putting her on lists doesn’t commit you but you may be ready when a room becomes available. The resentment that’s building can only go on so long-it’s not good for either of you.
Best wishes as you find your way.
How long do you think it will be before you are so exhausted, so desperate, so physically and emotionally depleted, that you realize that finding her the best residential care you can locate, and visiting her as often as you want to, maybe even for a brief stop-by visit every day, is really better for you BOTH than what you’re doing now?
If you “wanna cry” now, consider how you’ll feel after years of this, and worse.
Good caregiving requires balance, and right now, the balance is disrupted by something neither of you can control or manage. Her weight alone is unmanageable for a caregiver to attempt to take on, much less her loss of bladder control.
If you won’t consider placement now, at least begin your research about the placements available near you. Then you’ll have a sense of confidence when/if her care needs exceed your ability to continue.
Please continue to consider “balance”. What do YOU need to continue caring for her in a way that’s loving and safe for BOTH of you?