My 93-year-old mother-in-law is in an independent living facility, which also has assisted living apartments as well. Guessing there are maybe 150 or so units. She pays about $60K a year in rent, and she gets meals, trips to doctors and shopping, and the usual entertainment and activities.
They have sent everyone a letter asking for tips for all the workers (kitchen, drivers, gardeners, handyman, front desk...), suggesting 10-15% of annual rent is appropriate.
It seems like $6,000 - 9,000 in tips for the year is excessive and even inappropriate. I suppose she could estimate the value of the meals and trips and tip on that, but whatever she tips is going to be distributed among all staff.
So she is wondering what she should do, and asking friends what they do. I fear others will say they tip more than they do to look good to their friends.
I'd like to know if this is a common thing that these places do, and if so, if the request for so much money is way too much. It seems to me that the facility owner is merely getting the renters to help pay their costs.
"I have to apologize to everyone here. I should have known not to take the word of my mother-in-law, who is getting confused. This whole thing is something created by the community, not the facility. And no one is recommending 10-15%. Jeez. I’m sorry.
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Tipping in managed care is OPTIONAL. As it is elsewhere. It's the societal norm most people follow, however, when dealing with a SERVICE RELATED INDUSTRY and caregivers who do an awful lot for our loved ones during the year.
I am sure they are being paid at minimum wage or above. It is not like they
are dependent on tips, if they are looking for tips, I suggest that they head to
the local steak house and apply for a job as waiter.
However, have you ever worked caring for elders in managed care? Suggesting the CGs 'head to the local steak house & apply for a job as a waiter' indicates you have not cleaned up blow outs or changed incontinence briefs multiple times a day or wiped behinds covered in feces. And kept a smile on your face while doing so. Or answered the same question literally 150x in 15 minutes. Carrying a tray of food to a happy customer or bringing them a 2nd martini does not in any way compare to wiping behinds and caring for your loved one all day long who's suffering from dementia or old age related disease. It's very valid to give them all a tip at the end of the year b/c no matter how much they're paid (or UNDERPAID), it's still not enough to thank them for all they do. I could never put into words or write a check big enough for the loving care and respect they treated my parents with, and how they allowed them both dignity right up to when they took their last breath. You are comparing apples to oranges with your statement about waiters and caregivers.
Caregiving to the elderly is one of THE hardest jobs a person can possibly take on, which is why there is such a high turnover in the industry. There aren't many human beings with enough character, patience, and fortitude to accept SUCH low wages for doing SO much every day for so many people.