I've been speaking with a lot of families recently who are managing a parent's care remotely and the same struggles keep coming up , not knowing where to start, doing it alone, feeling like things are falling through the cracks. Anyone here going through something similar right now? Happy to share what I've seen work.
I'm in MN and had to manage care for 2 elderly Aunts in FL for several years. The caregiver is hopefully also the PoA, like I was. Once things for an LO seems to be falling apart in my experience it is the tip of the iceberg and an on-site visit for at least 1 to 2 weeks is critical. This allows time to assess, make legal appointments, make doctor appointments, contact social services, visit their bank, get their finances straightened out, set up caregivers or other services. Or, deciding they cannot realistically age at home and therefore a decision has to be made about what is really appropriate, sustainable care for them going forward. Caregiving happens on the caregiver's terms or else burnout is imminent. This applies whether a caregiver is local to their LO or not.