I've done just about everything to counteract the stress I've been going through, mostly due to the 'personalities' involved in my family. While trying to be the 'good' one in the family to care for my mother, it's been an uphill battle being in the middle of family members. This has been so stressful for me and for my aging mother (which makes me more stressed). How does one (really) cope (all cliché's aside and after counseling, etc. ) with all this family 'drama' when in reality, someone has to step up to care of a parent (in or out of AL)?
When you say you feel electricity going through your body? I totally understood. When I get an anxiety attack from the circumstantial stressors around me, my face feels hot, and I feel "electric" tingles that go from the top of my head right down into my limbs. Anxiety is known to give a "pins and needles" effect. It's completely normal. What I have been doing is taking deep breaths, praying, and trying my BEST to create a positive atmosphere by keeping the peace (even if they're all #*%&ing crazy. Just remain calm, silent and level-headed. I went into a deep depression this past month, kind of waking up from it, but it's still 'there'. Watch out for the dreaded depressive episodes after the heightened anxiety.
Sending positive thoughts your way… I totally get it.
I can only speak from experience.
I am an R.N.; my husband has solvent dementia & is just 64. I am the only care giver & because after the death of my daughter's he kept saying it was," too much drama " & I called it death, I moved out & now live next to him in the guest house. In the last 6 years I have lost my oldest sister; both of my daughter's at age 39, 15 months apart, my closest friend & minister & here I sit.
Loose the word drama & see it as it is ...LIFE.
I pray a lot & see things differently. Gosh, how the world changed when I changed.
I now find joy in what I do & so very much compassion. I did not realize that I was so lacking in compassion!
(At this point I know 99% of us are laughing hysterically at the idea of 8 hours uninterrupted sleep, I know... but God it makes a difference.
Big hugs xxx
I haven't been the same since, despite walking away from the stressful job. But to be fair it's been worse with mum and dad since last July.
Sadly I know the only end to this is going to be their death. Then I can see if there is any of the old me I can resuccitate.
Awful seeing my mum like this. She'd hate it.
Switzerland have the right idea.
But she's a sweetheart.
Handling dad is harder than dealing with Putin!