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Mother is aged 95, in assisted living , very bright, intense personality, vision issues, hearing issues , regular checks for UTI ‘s.Mom is from the generation when mental health was taboo and anyone needing a mental health evaluation was crazy ( she is fine it’s everyone else plotting against her) . She has been on seroquel for several months. She is sleeping much better. Her hallucinations and paranoia continue to become more frequent, all day , they are not pleasant. my question is in regards to a time line. It’s been about 18 months since her hallucinations began and they’ve increased in frequency. We are extremely frustrated with her continued ability to check all her billing, records and know exactly what medications she takes and when. We had to use our POA to get her treatment (medication). She has been told it’s a sleeping pill as she was unable to sleep. We had to pay out of our own pockets for psychiatric evaluation done at her facility , they visited her without her knowing what it was for( told her a fib) because it would show up on her bill and she’d flip out. We also have to pay for medication check ins . None of us ( sister and I ) can afford this we are all old and retired ourselves . Will see lose her ability to figure this out. We are afraid of her finding out and getting mad at us. She’s a scary type mother .

You might want to get therapy to deal with the fear of your mom's anger. My mom is mad at me that I don't bring her financials to her and let her play the stock market. Those days are long gone. No way am I giving her any of her own money to waste on investing. It's OK they get mad. They can stay mad. We just have to do what is best for them. If you don't have POA or guardianship it limits what you can do. My mom knew she was getting psych meds, but now she thinks it is a sleeping pill. I didn't tell her that, but maybe the facility did. She was very vigilant about which pills she was given, what they were for, but I think that has gone by the wayside. She takes what they give her and doesn't balk at it anymore. Mom is still mean, but far less scary two years into psych meds.
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SamTheManager Apr 24, 2026
Maybe you could find some sort of game that is not actually connected to her money that would allow her to "play the stock market" without actually doing so.
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You nor your siblings should be paying for anything pertaining to your mom and her care, as you'll need those funds for yourself one day soon. If money is an issue for your mom then you'll have to apply for Medicaid for her.
And at this point your mom should no longer have access to any of her accounts, so remove whatever it is that she's using to look at them whether it be a tablet or phone, and quit tip toeing around a woman who's brain is permanently broken.
It doesn't matter if she gets "mad" at you at this point, as all that matters is that she's now kept safe and is looked after for whatever time she may have left.
And it's always been my understanding that the life expectancy with Lewy Body dementia is 5-7 years as it's the second most aggressive of all the dementias.
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Sorrynotsorry Apr 24, 2026
We tried. We even had a notary. Then after signing she called the financial advisor and canceled everything. She had also put NA instead of her initials ( purposely) to void them. She’s sharp and smart. She has money but refuses to go to a psychiatrist and if it showed up on her SCAN bill , or assisted living bill, she’ll pitch an absolute fit. We are all scared of her. If you were raised by a mother that yelled at you for everything you’d understand. The AL has had my sister use her medical POA to get the help she needs . The psych came to the AL and saw my mom under the guise of making sure she was getting proper care. Half way through my mom figured out it was an evaluation and got up and stormed out. Then we got the call…….
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"There isn’t a clear, predictable timeline for Lewy body dementia. On average people live about 5–8 years after diagnosis, but it can be shorter or longer. What makes it different from Alzheimer’s is that it doesn’t progress in a straight line—people often have good days and bad days, and can seem much worse and then somewhat better again.

In general, early stages involve confusion that comes and goes, hallucinations, and sleep issues. Middle stages bring more consistent confusion and movement problems (like Parkinson’s). Later stages involve severe cognitive decline and full-time care needs.

One thing to watch for is sudden changes—those aren’t always “progression” and can sometimes be caused by infections, dehydration, or medications, which may be treatable."

Information courtesy of ChatGPT5.3
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Sorrynotsorry Apr 24, 2026
Thank you.
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