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I. How We Work in Washington. Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services. APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
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In our home, neither Dad nor Mom ever said to me or my siblings "I love you'. I didn't know any different until I started going to 12 step meetings. Those people hugged me and said "I love you". It freaked me out --- how could these people love me - they don't even know me!
I kept going to meetings because I was miserable and I ran out of things to do and nothing else worked up until then. I realized how this kind of thing initiates a connection with the other person. It actually made me feel as though I was part of something and not an outsider. The first time I said it to my Dad before we hung up the phone --- absolute silence on the other end. A few phone calls later, he actually said it before me and now it's natural and heartfelt. I just got back from his personal care home and when I left - I kissed his forehead and we exchanged "I love you" :-)
My mother was hard of hearing and then finally lost her hearing altogether. It took her a while longer to respond in kind --- but like someone else said, it made a big difference that I continued saying and showing it despite an "I love you" back. To be honest, in the beginning, I felt stupid and awkward by persisting. I thought I needed to knock it off because I was making her feel uncomfortable or that I was never going to hear what I wanted - ever. But for some reason I didn't quit. After Mom became deaf, we communicated by writing on a whiteboard or signing ... I'll never forget the first time Mom signed, "I love you". I felt like I was going to cry.
i also put more stock in actions . if your mother doesnt spit on you , try to stab you or throw lit matches at you its reasonable to assume that she loves you .
My response may be unpopular, but here goes. I think behavior matters a whole lot more than words. If she acts as though she loves you, that would be enough for me. If not, then hearing the words wouldn't help one bit. My mother tells me she loves me from time to time, but she clearly doesn't. We had a close relationship for many years, up until the point where she began needing to rely on other people's resources to continue to live the way she wanted (house, car, dog, etc., as well as the shopping trips, doctors visits etc. that most old people need help with). At that point, I became merely a resource to her. The words out of her mouth don't change that - it's clear in everything she does. And doesn't do, and asks/expects me to do for her. This past year, she totally forgot my birthday, for example. She's not senile, just self-centered and thoughtless. Do you feel loved by your mother? Do you feel she's showing you as much love as she can, given her present level of functioning? That's what I would care about, not the words or lack of them.
Do you mean she not physically able to speak anymore? Mom's love is always right there for you, even if she can't physically get the words out. Give her a hug, kiss the top of her head.
My Mother has never been able to say she loves anyone which makes caring for her at this stage even harder. I fight the resentment daily. Keep your good memories and cherish them.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
C.
APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
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If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
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This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
I kept going to meetings because I was miserable and I ran out of things to do and nothing else worked up until then. I realized how this kind of thing initiates a connection with the other person. It actually made me feel as though I was part of something and not an outsider. The first time I said it to my Dad before we hung up the phone --- absolute silence on the other end. A few phone calls later, he actually said it before me and now it's natural and heartfelt. I just got back from his personal care home and when I left - I kissed his forehead and we exchanged "I love you" :-)
My mother was hard of hearing and then finally lost her hearing altogether. It took her a while longer to respond in kind --- but like someone else said, it made a big difference that I continued saying and showing it despite an "I love you" back. To be honest, in the beginning, I felt stupid and awkward by persisting. I thought I needed to knock it off because I was making her feel uncomfortable or that I was never going to hear what I wanted - ever. But for some reason I didn't quit. After Mom became deaf, we communicated by writing on a whiteboard or signing ... I'll never forget the first time Mom signed, "I love you". I felt like I was going to cry.