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I sure hope you have listened to the very good advice.....please do not take her out or in your home. You havr no legsl standing, golden boy does....let HIM deal with everything.
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If your mother insists about talking to you about her understanding of what is going on (and it doesn't sound like she understands) nod sympathetically and say, "well, you'll have to discuss that with brother, won't you. "

Just leave it there.

Brother is POA and it's up to HIM to understand the legal and medical ramifications of the decisions he's making.

Maybe because mom is non-weight bearing, she can't do rehab right now and respite is a way to keep her in the facility until rehab can begin.
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Twillie Dec 2019
Thanks Barbara that could very well explain the respite. And correct - she does not really understand because they are not involving her in the decisions. And Sugar is off the charts and uncontrolled.
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TWille, how did things go?
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Twillie Dec 2019
Mom still in rehab but it’s hell. I spent the day with her today and it was good - she laughed.
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So here it is New Year’s Eve - brother and SIL got mom to assisted living respite room temporarily. She is not happy! SIL moved her things from rehab and mom can’t find her denture glue so mom’s calling me. Brother had the nerve to tell me to take her some. Not happening - I’m an hour away, thus the reason for years I’ve been saying “get her close to me and I will take care of her.” They want the control to make things convenient for them and allow me no input.
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CaregiverL Dec 2019
TWillie...happy & healthy New Year to you 🍷🌼🍾
Facilities have denture glue ...just have to ask for it. Looks like this year will be better for you...remember, you don’t have to keep running over there to her now..only when it’s convenient for you...especially since it’s not right around the corner!
hugs 🤗
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Good for you. He is POA then he needs to take on the responsibility. A two hour round trip is a little too much to ask to get a tube of glue.
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I’m not at ease with where my brother put my mom. It’s little more than a hotel room - on the other side of town away from me, with some existing old furniture - sleeping on a bed that is not hers, one small window. SIL cleaned her wallet out of money, insurance cards, debit and credit cards - took her house keys, told her she doesn’t need any food in her apartment since she gets 3 meals a day. All my mother wants is to die in her own bed and he is too lazy to move it. I agreed that she needs assisted living but I thought they would put her furniture there to at least help make her comfortable with her surroundings.
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Beatty Jan 2020
So sorry to hear that. Is brother reasonable at all to bring Mum's furniture?
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