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There is an awful lot of people using and exploiting your mother.

Make sure you and "fiancee" are not part of that.

Take the lot rent, divide it in 3, you and fiancee pay 2/3 rds. To start.
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Tired247 Jul 2019
We pay the electric bill and buy all the food. I don't ask her for a single penny or ask her to support me. My fiance and I are completely self sufficient and the only reason we stay here is because she says she doesn't want to be alone and because she guilt trips that she couldn't make it on her own. I work and my fiance work.
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When my mom and dad got married in 1948, they lived with my dad’s parents. They were supposed to be saving to buy a house, but I’m not certain how much they were actually able to save. My grandparents were immigrants and I don’t remember anyone saying that either one of them ever had a job. They sent their kids out to work at the age of ten to support them. My parents were pretty much responsible for paying for everything, plus paying rent. My mom said they’d buy soda and food and my dad’s sister would come over with my cousins and drink and eat it all. I always wondered why my parents put up with that. Apartments existed back then. I wonder the same about you and your fiancé. Why are you putting up with it? Launch. Get an apartment. Tell Mom thanks for her “hospitality “ and leave. It’s time.
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Shane1124 Aug 2019
“Launch”. I like that. Agree with Ahmijoy - time to pack up and move out. It sounds like she may have a mobile home (due to what you said about the lot). Help her catch up on that (even though you should not) but let that be the end of support to her by you and your fiancé.

You two must move. Your mom is young. But you can no longer enable her behavior of self destruction. It really bothers me when parents impose on couples just starting up. A good parent will encourage you to spread your wings and leave the nest. That parent is being selfish, pure and simple.

Tims to cut the cord.
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Amen to what DollyMe said! Your mother is WAY too young to be behaving in this manner, meaning, she could easily have another 20 or 30 YEARS of life ahead of her. Ask yourself, do you want to keep dealing with this nonsense or do you think it's time for mother to pull on her big girl panties and suck it up? A restaurant addiction......I spit my coffee out on the computer screen when I read that! The cost of ONE single restaurant meal is astronomical these days and that is a sheer waste of money! Buying groceries is expensive enough, but at least you can stretch a dollar a lot further than eating out! It's time for your mother to grow up and for you and your fiance to move out and start your own lives together. Mother will be just fine. And if she pouts & whines, she'll get over that, too!
Best of luck!
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What should you do? Me, I would move out, and get on with my life. You are too young to continue supporting her behavior, she is not going to change and she is flat out manipulating you. Make a plan, give her a 60 day notice and move out. Stop enabling her, she will figure it out, not your circus, not your monkeys!
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