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Others to report to; seems that may be the key. And less stress for the family, in certain situations. Or others to commune and spend time with. Hmmmmm. We need that, too. Isn't that part why we're on this site? So if it works for us, why not a 'separate' place for them?
7.5 years sole caregiver, and counting. Amazing how I couldn't stand it one afternon, one day, one week, one month, one summer, one season, one year, two years, four six, seven...almost eight years. And I don't think I can stand one more stressor, but along comes an emergency, and I turn into The Hulk.
Took my BP the other day at the drug store, and it was 117/70. Not sick at all (no cold, nor flu) now going on ten years. HOW do I do it. I have no idea.
Hope the transition works for you. Using a senior day program got Mom her own society within a week. She had her own life, and others to report to, even if only 4 hrs day.
Depending on how much memory loss she has, here's a way that worked fine for a friend - a birthday party. When you take her there, see about the possibility of some birthday balloons, cake, ice cream, a good celebration. And certainly make sure that others there are invited.
Again - if there's memory loss it doesn't matter when her birthday really is.
Wow, I like the "resort" idea! You got me thinking...I want to go to the beach! Forget lunch; I'm staying for a long long time. LOL
Seriously, I will be getting a break soon, as mom as requested a change of guardian from me to...? Good luck with that! Thank God my Dad smiles when he sees me, is sad when I leave, and I can protect him from a mean person, to some extent. He told the nurse the "We have trouble [meaning his wife]. That's a good way to put it. Don't you just love Alzheimer's sometimes? Perhaps that was God's way of getting him a place of his own away from... Did I just say that?
I am getting help!!! After weeks of hunting I have located a place near to me that looks wonderful. We're going to start with respite care: 4 to 6 weeks, and then go from there. Mom is very upset about the change in living arrangements and I am trying to hold firm but boy is it hard.
Spiritcat: thanks for replying. There is no family and you bet I'm depressed but I want to work to change the situation rather than medicate myself to tolerate it. Yesterday was really tough because when I talked to my mom about it she started crying and then gave me the silent treatment. Today she has not referenced it (she has 'memory' for certain things day to day) and I have not referenced it either but am working steadily towards this outcome. Mom and I are going to the 'resort' Friday for lunch and I hope she has a good time.
We're going to have some sad, stressed days but at least now we are working towards fixing it and I thank eveybody again for the support. Means a lot and really helped.
My Mom is really a trooper and I hope this transition will work for her.
I'm not all fixed but feel better! I should be able to think again after a few weeks of not doing everything all the time.
Please stay in touch you guys! As we all know, this goes on and on.
yep you are the boss. my dad calls me the boss lady . but he still loves me . if you dont have anybody eles to take your place and give you a break then you will need to find someone to release you . please take a break !! you will feel so much better !
What resources do you have by way of family? What do you mean - she won't give you a break? I'd rather not have to read between the lines, but sounds like both of you need to see a geriatric psychiatrist and get some meds, either for depression or anxiety.
Some more info from you would get you better answers.
Bobbi I wish i had a magic answer for you, I really do. I've only been at it for 4 months and am going out of my mind crazy. What Barbara said is so very true, you are the boss, your mother is not. It's not easy, I know, and I send you hugs of support.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
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If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
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This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
Took my BP the other day at the drug store, and it was 117/70. Not sick at all (no cold, nor flu) now going on ten years. HOW do I do it. I have no idea.
Hope the transition works for you. Using a senior day program got Mom her own society within a week. She had her own life, and others to report to, even if only 4 hrs day.
Again - if there's memory loss it doesn't matter when her birthday really is.
Seriously, I will be getting a break soon, as mom as requested a change of guardian from me to...? Good luck with that! Thank God my Dad smiles when he sees me, is sad when I leave, and I can protect him from a mean person, to some extent. He told the nurse the "We have trouble [meaning his wife]. That's a good way to put it. Don't you just love Alzheimer's sometimes? Perhaps that was God's way of getting him a place of his own away from... Did I just say that?
I am getting help!!! After weeks of hunting I have located a place near to me that looks wonderful. We're going to start with respite care: 4 to 6 weeks, and then go from there.
Mom is very upset about the change in living arrangements and I am trying to hold firm but boy is it hard.
Spiritcat: thanks for replying. There is no family and you bet I'm depressed but I want to work to change the situation rather than medicate myself to tolerate it. Yesterday was really tough because when I talked to my mom about it she started crying and then gave me the silent treatment. Today she has not referenced it (she has 'memory' for certain things day to day) and I have not referenced it either but am working steadily towards this outcome. Mom and I are going to the 'resort' Friday for lunch and I hope she has a good time.
We're going to have some sad, stressed days but at least now we are working towards fixing it and I thank eveybody again for the support. Means a lot and really helped.
My Mom is really a trooper and I hope this transition will work for her.
I'm not all fixed but feel better! I should be able to think again after a few weeks of not doing everything all the time.
Please stay in touch you guys! As we all know, this goes on and on.
Bobbie
if you dont have anybody eles to take your place and give you a break then you will need to find someone to release you .
please take a break !! you will feel so much better !
Some more info from you would get you better answers.