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Hello, My husband has COPD, CHF, and End Stage Renal Disease. He recently was hospitalized and had two episodes of heart failure. They had to perform CPR to bring him back and put him on a vent for over 24 hrs.
They recommended he go to a post acute facility for recovery. So, he agreed at the hospital, and we set it up and I took him there and got him settled in etc.
The next morning he was calling me every 5 minutes to come and get him. He hates this place, come and pick him up. Texting me that he would never forgive me for this betrayal, etc. He was also calling his brother and Sister and friends to come and get him. Everyone was aware of his situation and no one came to pick him up.
Then the nurse at the post acute facility called and said that they really cant hold him against his will and he is in the lobby waiting on a ride. I asked her how he got to the lobby because yesterday he couldn't walk by himself. She said he wheeled himself down in a wheel chair. So, I went and picked him up. I just don't know what is the right thing to do anymore!

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Sorry to learn your husband has several serious medical issues. He needs a DNR from his doctor and medications for comfort.
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It's time to get your husband a mental evaluation. If you have POA look into placing him. Heart issues can cause anger issues, so talk with his heart doctor as well.
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In this instance, rehab could have been a big help. PT, OT and speech (if needed) is one of the advantages of being at the facility.
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Whatever the rehab was for, he won’t be getting it now. And that’s part of the deal: if you insist on dialysis plus a full code then you’re implicitly agreeing to the rehab and perhaps ltc part of it. If he wants no part of that perhaps it’s time for hospice and their comfort drugs plus supplies plus durable medical equipment plus bath aides.
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Your husband needs a DNR at this point, with end stage renal disease! It sounds like he's suffering from dementia as well since he's got no recollection of agreeing to rehab and now melting down over it. It seems cruel to me to have done CPR on a dying man. And now you're forced to deal with him! He belongs in Skilled Nursing care with hospice on board. Can you get his doctor involved to suggest this? Otherwise hire in home help to relieve you....this is too much for one person to handle.

I'm sorry you're both in such a bad position and pray you find relief soon.
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