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Get the activities director involved. Let her know what's happening with mother and see about getting her to knock on mom's door before the activities begin to encourage her to join in. Get the executive director involved too.....togerher you can formulate a plan of action. Then back off a bit and let mom know you're only available at X times for X things and nothing else. That will force her to use the services she's paying for. Let some calls go to voice mail and speak once a day. It's not "mean" to do this....its allowing her to acclimate to the place and make friends outside of you! Burn out is real and so is compassion fatigue.
There could be dementia involved or a UTI if this behavior is worsening or new. A visit to her PCP may be in order to check her over and to do a med review as well. Anti depressants can become ineffective over time and need changing or tweaking. My mother is 94 and constantly creating a new crisis in her Memory Care Assisted Living residence. Instead of calling her today, I called the nurse to see how she's doing. I got to hear the truth instead of how horrible she is and the usual tirade of injustices and anxieties that plague her. In reality, she ate lunch and was sitting in the garden. When she uses me as a sounding board, the sky is always falling. So I give her space to chill out instead of more phone calls to perpetuate the misery, you know? This is just my experience though, and may have no bearing to your experience. I just throw it out there to say some mother's lay it on thick for their daughters, especially if we keep calling and allowing it.
Wishing you the best of luck with a difficult situation
Your profile says that your mom is 100 years old, and your post says that she's only in the early stages of dementia. Good for her! I'm not sure if I would live to be 100, that I would want to do much either. I would just let her be, and if and when she wants to get involved with something there, she will. At this point in he life, it really should be up to her . And I'm not sure what you mean when you say that she's "very clingy," but perhaps you just need to stay away from the facility for a while, or go just a couple times a week, until she learns to depend on the folks there a bit better. But most importantly just enjoy whatever time you have left with your mom, because as you know, at the age of 100, her time here is limited. Wishing you and your mom the best.
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I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
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You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
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There could be dementia involved or a UTI if this behavior is worsening or new. A visit to her PCP may be in order to check her over and to do a med review as well. Anti depressants can become ineffective over time and need changing or tweaking. My mother is 94 and constantly creating a new crisis in her Memory Care Assisted Living residence. Instead of calling her today, I called the nurse to see how she's doing. I got to hear the truth instead of how horrible she is and the usual tirade of injustices and anxieties that plague her. In reality, she ate lunch and was sitting in the garden. When she uses me as a sounding board, the sky is always falling. So I give her space to chill out instead of more phone calls to perpetuate the misery, you know? This is just my experience though, and may have no bearing to your experience. I just throw it out there to say some mother's lay it on thick for their daughters, especially if we keep calling and allowing it.
Wishing you the best of luck with a difficult situation
And I'm not sure what you mean when you say that she's "very clingy," but perhaps you just need to stay away from the facility for a while, or go just a couple times a week, until she learns to depend on the folks there a bit better.
But most importantly just enjoy whatever time you have left with your mom, because as you know, at the age of 100, her time here is limited. Wishing you and your mom the best.