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My husband went through a very invasive neck surgery and is no longer able to work. So I need the financial help.

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The only thing you are "wrong" about is that you didn't charge her $600 monthly from the beginning!
Do the math:
10 years x 12 months = 120 months x $600 = $7,200 you gave away.

Especially with your Mother never helping with meals or cleaning? So you like being an unpaid slave? If she has complaints, tell her to find somewhere cheaper.
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Her benefits didn't cut.
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Beedevil66 4 hours ago
That's good
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I hope your husband heals quickly and you can get stabilized again. I don't think asking your mom to help out since as you say she does not cook or clean is a bad idea. As JoAnn29 said you might want to get it put in writing.
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Have a contract with what that $600 will cover. Both sign and notarize. If she ever needs Medicaid, this will prove where her money went.
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Not wrong. What is wrong is that you did not start this 10 years ago.
Now...I might add fuel to your fire but she should be paying her FAIR share of ALL household expenses.
For example if there are 3 of you in the house she pays 1/3 of Mortgage, gas, electric, water, garbage, food, homeowners insurance, HOA fee, and any other expense. AND if you take her to doctor appointments she should be paying you for gas and mileage.
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If you took in a boarder to live with you would you let them stay for free? If you yourself moved into someone's house would you expect them to charge you nothing?

Of course not.

So why would you think your mother isn't supposed to pay? $600 a month is more than fair and reasonable. In fact, it's generous. This is the price a person would give to family they love. Where I live it's at least $1,000 a month for a bedroom somewhere. Your mother is getting a very good deal with you asking $600 and she should be glad to get it.
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Beedevil66 8 hours ago
Exactly!, similar to paying for a room
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Rent and/or chipping in for utilities, food etc is always appropriate . She can’t live in an apartment for $600 a month . If Mom isn’t happy , she can move out . If Mom doesn’t have much money , she can put her name on the wait list for senior housing apts that the rent is based on her SS income
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Beedevil66 8 hours ago
It may be enough for a room in a house
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No, rent is very fair. Does she or did she contribute for food or utilities at all in the previous 10 years?
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Of course, she should help pay expenses.
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She should at least cover the expenses of her living there, you don't need to "profit" from it: utilities, cable and internet (if she uses those), taxes and insurance,, some maintenance and repairs. If she were out in the real world renting, this is what her rent would cover (but also profit). She couldn't find a nice, safe place like your home in the outside world for $600. Rents where I live are $1500 for a single bedroom.

Does she get SSI? What is she doing with that money if she's not paying rent?
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Tryingtolove 13 hours ago
Yes, she receives ssi. So, originally because her income wasn't much, I only took 300 a month for the first 9 and half years, which covered everythingfir her. My husband recently had very invasive neck surgery and is no longer able to work and she knows this and is still begrudging me the other money knowing that this will help me. She has never cooked a meal for me or my husband nore does she help with cleaning.
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