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I'm trying to get her to AL but she refuses to go. I'm 87 and getting stressed out, but she has no relatives who will take care of her. HELP

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You need to contact your local council on aging and get resources. If you are her POA you should contact now her doctor to say you yourself are no longer able to fulfill this obligation. That you can remain a friend, but not a POA. At that point you may need APS to open a case to proceed with getting this elder into care, conservatorship or guardianship of the state. They will decide on placement or none with the elder herself. They will appoint a licensed Fiduciary to manage her funds and her life and you can remain her good friend who visits her.
This isn't appropriate. There is way too much to do as POA in your circumstance. I managed only the financial side of things for my brother and at 78 when I started and did it for almost two years, it was a LOT, only THAT. A lot to learn, a lot of record keeping and a lot of time on the phone arranging things.
I encourage you to honor your limitations now and get this lady in the care of the State who can manage a placement for her. Clearly she is not eating OR has an underlying condition (and why explore all THAT at this point). She needs more care than you can supply for and to her.
I sure wish you the best. Start with reaching out to the doctor and ask best how to contact social services to arrange resigning your POA and having others appointed to her care.
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You asked a similar question in March.

https://www.agingcare.com/questions/as-poa-and-trustee-do-i-have-the-ability-to-put-my-friend-in-an-assisted-living-facility-465700.htm

I would see the lawyer who wrote up the POA and Trust. Tell him you can no longer help this women and what can be done to get her the help she needs. Maybe he can become her guardian or tell you how to turn her care over to the State.

You could start with Adult Protection Services and see what they suggest. Maybe they will come and evaluate the situation. Make sure you give them the nieces phone #. Make it clear to them that you need to resign because at 87 you just can't do it anymore.
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