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My mom also expected family and friends to mow her yard. She then pitched a fit because it wasn't the way she wanted it. She ended up having to hire someone. I also have a bad back and there is no way I'm mowing a yard. As of today stop all upkeep. She needs to see that you are not her unpaid servant. Stop caring about what her sisters think. If they are mad enough they can have their own kids do the yard work. You are passed that and should enjoy your 60s.
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I think you have given her all the power, and she is the petulant toddler bossing you around.

No is a complete sentence, use it whenever necessary and rinse and repeat as often as necessary. No explanation or further discussion is required.

It stops now when you stop doing the work and release yourself from your assigned role of unpaid servant.

Honestly, just cut her off for a few weeks. When she gets cited by the city or township, she'll have to deal with it, without your help. Who on earth cares what her old sisters say or think. You have no control over what anyone thinks. If anyone brings it up, just say I'm not involved and drop it.

As far as the trust goes, if its irrevocable and you receive inheritance regardless of what you do or don't do, it's silly to keep jumping every time she demands it. You can resign as trustee and still get the funds, they are two separate things.

Take care of yourself and your husband and let the old bat figure it out. It's not worth one more minute of your time and health.
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CDGChgo Mar 14, 2026
Resigning trusteeship is a viable option, especially in a situation like this. The terms of the trust must govern any trustee’s actions as well as acceptable practices for fiscal responsibility. Not having to do it nor all the physical labor of upkeep for her property will be a huge improvement in your quality of life.
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