Once she could not take care of herself they abandoned her. They never even ask me if I needed help economically. If my family has not help I do not know what I would have done. Now she is dying and I am still alone with my family taking care of her, losing her day by day and my sisters and brother that could have been here are not. My mother was a good mom and a really good human being. I feel so angry, I do not think I could ever talk to them again. I am so tired, physically and emotionally and yet my partner and my family have been there for me and my mother. How can a child abandoned a mother that was so good to them?
We don't know the dynamics of another family and if one is a control freak, how can you compete with that? We all do what we do, and as ladee said, God knows what we do and what we have been through with the parents.
So, it is not always selfishness with regard to the siblings - there are many sides to a family story. And think guilty conscious comments are out of line.
My great fear is that government (s) have begun to write laws that will have a profound effect on our loved ones despite the family wishes.That is why I have such strong feelings about 'family' that do not support their ill loved ones or the caregivers who have stepped forward.Fighting for and caring for a loved one is rough enough without having to fight government mandates,hospitals,doctors,AL/NH's etc,etc let alone your own family.Today's world requires more than just a loving caregiver because one must also be a very strong willed advocate to speak for the ones who can no longer speak for themselves.I wish we treated our elderly as well as we do youth in this country.
BTW: In my previous comment I stated 75 plus years of devotion to their children.I should of stated a combined total of over 75 years.Then again after I think about it 50 plus years each would be closer to reality.How do you ever pay that back?We were blessed with outstanding parents who raised us all quite similar and I'm as heartbroken as lonewolf is about her siblings dumping mom and her.Is is very hard to forgive after you have lived through it going it alone.Few ever recover totally from the emotional,financial,stress related health issues after long term care.
Just the opposite in my family. But, that's according to my description of being "supportive" or "behaving badly". I think there can be other reasons, other than whether or not a person is religious, that affects behavior and how they see things.
But, that should probably be another thread elsewhere.
Try to have a good day, everyone!
xo
-SS
There should be laws about this matter. Esp. when the only intent is to want them to pass faster to collect money. They could be charged with second degree murder, that's what Depraved Indifference is.
most When we took her car 4 years ago sister didnt want us to because mil couldnt come help her babysit and all the other crap and she is using we accused her of stealing no we busted her spending her moms money for last 2 years after she paid mothers bills.