Tomorrow we are moving my 100 yr old mother to assisted living. She has spent the last two days with my sister while we move her things. She has gone off the deep end, since being removed from her "safe place". She is nasty, hallucinated a little, thinking she was in her own house, totally impossible. Until now, in IL she has been so so, at least she controlled herself, odd, but doing most of the things she should. Her memory is really bad. The doctor and the IL said she has to move. Based on the way she has behaved the past two days, we're afraid she will be kicked out of AL the first month! She doesn't even know she is being moved. We're telling her tomorrow! Is there some sort of medication (beside a tranquilizer) that can be given to her to settle her down. She is always stressed, worried, negative and is now acting a little aggressive. We have known she needed some sort of med, but hasn't been on anything simply because she could not be trusted to take it. We don't want her in memory care yet as she is still capable of getting up, getting dressed, making her bed, doing makeup, making coffee, going to meals, getting her hair done, communicating, etc. There must be some drug out there that can mellow her out? Oh please, help. We are at our wits end.
Let us know how it plays out and meanwhile keep venting as you need to. This time of transition is very difficult and stressful time for you. I understand. ((((((((hugs)))))))
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I agree with lizawren that our mothers' feelings and experiences are theirs to process and deal with, not ours. I found I had to detach and distance to a degree emotionally. I was working, as you are, to get her the help she needed. Getting upset by her calls and her attitude didn't help me or her. It stressed me so, I tried to reduce the stress on me, and still work to get her what she needed. That makes it a win win. I know it isn't easy.