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My mum lives with me. At first I used to pussyfoot around her and do everything. She is, or was, an attention seeker. Then I stopped because she was driving me mad. She soon started doing things for herself and I realised that it's best to say it as it is and almost treat them like a child. Take the chair away and tell her it's only coming back in when you feel it's necessary. Let her wet herself if she feels the need for the attention. But be firm and I'm sure she will soon be going to the bathroom. Good Luck.
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Oh man, I was gagging just thinking about it being knocked over. Truth is, I have a very strong gag reflex. I gagged when I changed my kids' diapers. Can't handle poop. I was up front with my mom when she moved in with me. I will NOT deal with poop. When you become incontinent, you must leave. She started wandering the neighborhood in the middle of the night before poop became an issue, prompting us to place her in memory care. Mom wears Depends all the time now and has the UTIs to prove it. Hasn't stopped her from messing her pants in restaurants or stores. When she does, I swear she gets the smuggest look on her face as she tells me she "had an accident." The first time she did it, she fully expected me to clean her up. Nope, sorry. You did it, you clean it. I made her start carrying an extra Depends in her purse for emergencies. Mom has always been lazy and very happy to let others do for her. My sister gets angry with me because I don't help her up from the table or in and out of the car. I make her do it herself. Her doctor and physical therapist both told us that its the best way to keep her moving.

Would I live with a potty chair in my family room? Oh HELL no! I know several people who have and my hat is off to them, but I know I couldn't do it.
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Thank you everyone for your replies and suggestions. Mom is able to get up and around with her walker, she doesn't want to do anything but live in Her Chair. She stopped sleeping in her bed in her bedroom long time ago. Like I said, Her Chair is the utmost multi-functional thing I've ever seen. I have come up with an ode to Potty Chair set to the tune of the old TV show Spiderman:
Potty Chair, Potty Chair,
if it's full I don't care,
Sitting there in the living room,
it has become a source of doom,
Lookout! Don't tip the Potty Chair...
Positioned there for all to see,
makes the room smell like pee,
It's unnecessary I hate it so much,
just gives mom another crutch,
Lookout! Don't tip the Potty Chair.
Well, hell, what can I say? Being an only child, amusing myself started when I was a child...thanks for understanding.
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ybd311 Jun 2019
That is just hilarious!! 🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂
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I'm kind of confused with this post. You asked what would we do and what is best to get mom mobility. Yet, in the end is a poem about the pot (humorous, yes) and has a tinge of complacency to me. Since you also said, yes, she has the ability to go to the bathroom and chooses not to do so. Are you going to move the pot out of the living room and tell her no more? Not doing something means she continues sitting until she can no longer walk and you will have less and less visitors because they won't be able to stomach the smells. Just wondering if any of the ideas on this post are going to be part of a plan.
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Ahmijoy Jun 2019
I agree with you. Even though Pharsytid seemed to be asking for advice, I suspect none of it will be taken. We do not live with her and her mother, and we do not know exactly what’s going on. However, all our responses were met with anecdotes.

Personally, if my family room had been turned into a toilet by someone who was capable of getting to the real facility, I’d put an end to the situation immediately. I wouldn’t be making jokes or writing poems about it.
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Again, thank you for your replies. After much negotiation, potty chair and I have reached an agreement. Potty chair will only be used in the living room at night or when I am not at the house; otherwise, potty chair waits to be called for duty in the garage.
To clarify, I reside in my moms house, so sometimes it’s a little trickier to “uphold the laws” as I would if it were my home. Also, my mother does not use her bedroom anymore as I’ve said, she lives in Her Chair.
Thanks again e1.
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