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I’m sorry u should feel quilts. Yo me those places are just that to get u ready to leave this earth. Think about when it’s ur turn. Ppl should always put themselves on those shoes. There’s no place like home. No one wants to go and be somewhere when no one cares. There just doing there job. Feed u meds do u die. U give up ppl treat u any kind of way. If mom was doing hood u should have let her chill until it was her time to go naturally happy at home. Anyone wants a break go stay in a hotel and let caregiver come help ppl u can trust get cameras. Mom stuck and looked out for u and if ur husband was fine than all more she could stay just balance ur time. It’s tough. Yes, but u could do it. I’m being honest. If anyone had hood parents and the stuck with them than u must stick with them. Please ppl wake up when it comes to these places u really think that they r there for your parent(s) No! There only there for a paycheck And being told what to do while working There r few and far who really cares ppl, places and things. Life is short. Love hug and keep it moving. Bc one day it will be our turn than WHAT! Ask Urself what would Gid say to do.
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God!
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CareGiver2Mom: I am sorry that your mother is doing poorly and is on hospice care, but please know you did nothing wrong. Hugs sent during this most difficult of times.
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I agree thank God u brought her home. Plz take care of her. God was telling u to bring her home.
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Thank you all for your kind words, sadly my mom has taken a very bad decline and today makes 3 days with no food and water other than some teaspoon feeding of really soft foods/water. My brother arrived on Tuesday to be with me when she passes and so he could see her her again and her know he was here.
We think she has some head trauma from all the falls and blows her head has taken from them because she has a few small lumps on the back of her head, complains of her head hurting and squinches her eyes alot now. I have been giving her meds for pain and to keep her comfortable all week since she came back home.
The last few mornings she has been very talkative and waking us up saying she needs to get up and get dressed and wants to go out to eat, at night seems to be the worst for her and us as we thought she was going to leave us. She is so boney and we hate feeling like we are starving her due to her inability to really eat/drink, its terrible to see this decline. Her eyes are all sunk in and super red around them, her speech has gotten worse but her urine output has been about 12oz in a 24hr period but is very dark. I am taking this so hard and know I am going to need some therapy to get over this, its heartbreaking to watch. I just pray for her to be free of pain during this process and that she crosses over soon. Thank you all so much.
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LoveLea Oct 2022
It is extremely difficult to watch our love one disappear slowly before our eyes, but this is part of life. You have no say in this part. However, caring for her during these last days mean a lot! Don’t beat yourself up when you’re doing your very best. Big hug to you!
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Her present condition is a result of her illness, not anything you do or don’t do. At her age she will change as her body changes. Best to try to stay calm and understand that her age and the illness is taking their tole. Hospice is very good if her doctor thinks she needs more attention. Hope it gets better for you.
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She most likely has a UTI and dehydration - based on her symptoms. Please take her to urgent care or her doctor for evaluation. Seniors can easily develop sepsis - infection that moves into the bloodstream - from a UTI. She might need to be hospitalized if she needs IV hydration or IV antibiotics. Otherwise, she might be able to go home with oral antibiotics.
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((())). You are doing what you can - don’t feel guilty for what you can’t control. You have been a good daughter taking care of your Mom. Maybe this is a UTI and can be cleared up with medical care - or maybe not. Just keep doing what you can and feel at peace with that.
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Thank you all for your kind words, I lost my Mom Oct 2nd at 9:30am as I watched her take her last breath as I held her hand. My brother and hubby had left to go out for a few minutes and I heard a strange noise on the baby cam beside my bed and it was my moms breathing, sounded like a machine, not the death rattle. I ran into her room and she had spit up on her gown as if she had been aspirating and I hope she didn't do that all night, anyway I called hospice to see what I needed to do cause she was still alive, they said raise the bed up so she could sit up then they wanted me to give her meds and I said no, don't think thats what she needs, once she was sitting up the noise stopped but she kept breathing lightly but I felt of her feet and they were starting to become cold and I knew she was on her way out. Worst thing I ever had to watch, my brother and hubby came home just after she died and I miss her so much. Because of the guilt and heartache I have I am now in grief therapy and going to a grief share group once a week, I cry everyday as certain things trigger me even out in public. Ive had to go though all her things from storage and thank goodness thats just about done and in my garage. My brother went back home a week after she died and its just hubby, I and the dogs and its so hard to get back to normal, now my 55th birthday is monday and my mom is gone, the holidays are upon us and I could care less. But.... My best friend who is more like my sister surprised me and will be here Thurs to spend 5 days with me for my birthday because she knows how hard its going to be. My mom was cremated and I now have her ashes, I just have a hard time dealing with what happened to her at Respite and it plays out in my mind over and over. I have sent for her records to see if there is something that was done/given that should not of been and I really hope thats not the case but....... Only God knows.
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Llamalover47 Nov 2022
CareGiver2Mom: I am so sorry for the loss of your. Deepest condolences.
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