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My Dad and I take care of my 85 year old mom at home. The noises she makes is crazy. She does talk here and there. Mostly if you speak to her. My mom has mixed dementia. I heard from another caregiver who husband has LBD that he grunts too. My mom does it with eating, (no dental issues. Regularly goes to dentist)sitting on toliet, walking, sleeping. Almost everything she does. When you ask if she is okay? She says she is okay. Anyone dealt with this or is? Driving my dad and I nuts. But, regardless we will still take care of her. Cause we love her so much. Thank you.

I would ask her doctor if there is a medication that will help with this. My Mom started humming which got louder every day. The NH ended up medicating her. Hers was caused by anxiety.
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It's part of the brain damage, anyone who has spent time in a nursing home will have encountered people who make vocalizations. Some at my mom's NH seemed to make sense - calling out for help... nurse! nurse!.... can you take me to the washroom please? please? - until you spend a lot of time there and realize that it goes on repetitively all day long and no amount of attention can sooth it. A woman across the hall from my mom "sang" constantly all day long in a wordless rising and falling pitch, I pities her poor vocal cords.
My mom had her own little verbal tics so I know just how distressing it can be, especially when you are still caring for them at home. I noticed it was worse when she was anxious or had an unmet need, although it was often impossible to figure out what she needed (even after playing 20 questions! lol).
I second Margaret's advice about ear plugs, that's a hack I discovered when doing child care and it works well in elder care as well. The ear plugs aren't blocking all sound, just lowering the volume so it's easier to cope with or ignore if necessary.
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I used to be in a support group and another woman’s husband did this high-pitched whistle-hum-whine noise just about all the time. He sounded like a cross between a tea kettle at the boil and an ambulance. And he paced constantly too. The only thing that would interrupt him for about five minutes or so was chewing gum. She would give that to him when she was on an important phone call and he wouldn’t let her leave the room (he would follow her). I think I would have lost my sanity in that situation.

It might not work for your mother and I know it is considered a choking risk also. Just putting it out there.
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Have you tried ear plugs?
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MargaretMcKen 8 hours ago
This might have sounded a bit slick, but my husband the engineer buys earplugs by the 1,000, and I am very used to using them. I am now towards the end of a very hot southern hemisphere summer, where we use overhead fans at night, and the ‘fan breeze’ upsets my ears unless I block them with earplugs. I am so used to using them, that it strikes me as the first obvious option!
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