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I live with her right now to help with the $2200 rent. I’m 67 and just need my life back! There is no one else to help me. My sister on the east coast is mentally Ill so no help there! I can’t take this anymore! We never had a good relationship and it’s 1000 times worse now! Everyone I know says just leave her… she’s so mean to you. But I have guilt about it. I’ve given up on life!😢

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At 67, you still have time to get your life back.

I agree with the suggestion of calling APS and reporting a vulnerable adult. They will do an assessment, and (as she is 90) should be able to suggest the best facility for her to be placed in.

It would also be helpful for you to see a counsellor for your own healing/plotting a new life-direction. I do not know what is available in your area, but Geaton777 has provided some contact information below to get you started if you are in the U.S.

Wishing you strength.
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It’s enough for a care home. There are more of those than you might realize and some are pretty good.


Get therspy for yourself. You need to release these toxins on the regular, set some goals and have someone to help you stay on tract.

Get out everyday and walk. If only for a few minutes. Get headphones and listen to music, podcasts and to talk on the phone. “Tune her out”.

Come here and get stronger. Wishing you well.
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I must first say that you are NOT responsible for your mom or her care. If she doesn't have enough money to be placed in a nursing facility then she'll have to apply for Medicaid.
Your mom at 90 years old has had her life and if she was any kind of a loving mom she would NEVER want her child giving up their lives for them.
So start taking the steps to get your life back, which yes will include moving out of your moms house along with calling APS to report a vulnerable adult living by themselves. They will come out and do an assessment and if need be take over her care and get her placed in the appropriate facility.
Please DO NOT continue to be abused by this woman, but instead stand strong and take your life back!
I wish you well in doing just that. You'll be SO glad you did, as we all only get one life to live, so it's up to us to make the most of it.
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