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Don’t try to discuss her memory issues with her, it will only frustrate you both. Now is the time for brother’s POA for finances to kick in and he begin taking care of her bills. I did this for my dad without telling him until it was done. I expected anger and was surprised when he was relieved that it was being handled. Keeping good records that he could see anytime made him feel calm about it. Mom’s doctor should have sent her to a neurologist for a complete evaluation and that doctor should explain her results to her. But explaining becomes quickly useless as the ability to comprehend lessens. Don’t be afraid of what mom says, she’s not the same person anymore. You’ll need to view her as a person in need of help, not a mom out to hurt you. I wish you peace
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Did the doctor do any type of assessment? Were there any conclusions?
Is the POA in effect?
If so your brother should be arranging that bills are paid on line. If this is not something he wants to do the bells can be sent to him rather than your mother. then he can pay them from her account.
If the POA is not in effect and you have no indication from a doctor that she has dementia then as difficult as it is you need to step back and wait for something to happen that will force some sort of action.
But given what you have said she should not be living alone. And if she drives she should not be driving.
Then the difficult decisions...does she go to Memory Care or move in with brother.....no way you should care for her given what you have said in your post. Or Caregivers move in with her.
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