I live in WA state snhomish county and I have a friend who has a brother who is supposed to be taking care of his mom who has a dementia my friend is the sister Her brother has been taking the moms money not paying bills because the bro n mom just got evicted from their house and the brother is also an alcoholic and elderly mom is also drinking with bro and apparently from what the sister told me APS had come to the bro n mom house. before they got evicted because the bank called them not 100% sure why APS were called but I & sis think they came because on camera it shows him taking money out his mom account although mom allowed him to get the money but she don't know he had not been paying bills... rewind back sometime before her bro were evicted mom called her daughter on one of her clarity days because Mom checked the mail and saw a letter from bank and told her daughter that the money is all gone referring to her savings account maybe that is also why the bank called APS I am thinking... fast forward to eviction. They have now been evicted and came to stay with my friend who is the sister. My friend has been distant from her family because of old wounds but would visit from time to time and talks to her mom on phone but it still took a lot for her to allow them to stay and that is how my friend and I realized the bro has been playing on mom dementia and has depleted her savings and mom gets a check every month for 1600 and bro is taking that also they offered nothing to sis for allowing them to stay and bro only left the house to get 18 to 24 pack of Budweiser and gallon of half gallon of vodka n cigarettes for his self and. mom but hides the vodka to ensure he has some for the next day My friend is in government housing so it was rules she told them they had to follow and bro and mom did not want to follow them n felt like my friend was just fussing all the time so now they have snuck out my friend house and she doesn't know where they are. The bro does not work and had been talking about moving to Arizona to a friend who is also an alcohol drinker and the bro was talking about buying a trailer and traveling with mom… Where is he getting the money to possibly buy a trailer we wonder? My friend is upset and sad that she possibly might not see her mom ever again and one more thing when APS came to their house before eviction they wanted mom to take a dementia test but they moved because of eviction and I don't think APS knew they were getting evicted nor has mom went and got the Dementia test done and mom use to go to Dr. but bro has not taken Mom to the Dr. in a long while and bro was supposed have did the POA but never did it. What can happen with no to mom with no POA in place ...what should my friend do? What do u think can come out of this situation with information I have given and we have pics of the bro car and license plate n do u think APS is looking for mom because she never did the Dementia test and then just movedd
Be certain that your friend has the phone numbers for police, emergency services, APS and etc.
Get on with your own life and stay well clear of what is clearly an absolute and utter mess in a family with extremely toxic and dangerous behaviors.
Snohomish is lovely! I have family there. Welcome to the Forum.
I don't think APS will search for Mom. They don't have those kind of resourses. Seems Mom and brother are two peas in a pod. Your friend may not be able to do anything about this situation. Seems she does not have the money, nor does Mom, for guardianship.
I don't know if becoming Moms payee for Social Security would work. You could set up a new acct with youvas payee. Then have payments going there. This will keep brother from being able to touch it. But also Mom. So if you have no idea where they are, she would have no money.