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Mom qualified for LTC back in November. She has since improved by quite a bit. When the requalification paperwork is due it will be filled out by her memory care facility.


What happens if she doesn't qualify. I CAN'T have her return to live with us and none of the rest of the family can have her stay with them, either. I have a feeling that we'll have to take her in again. She doesn't have money to pay for anything, I don't have enough (plus I refuse to pay for anything else for her because she's in this situation completely because of her own choices).

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She has Dementia, thats not going to change. She is 24/7 care. She can't take care of herself. Just be firm in that she can't come to your house because you are not able to care for her. Its called an "unsafe discharge".
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CaringWifeAZ May 3, 2026
I don't think the "unsafe discharge" claim applies for a memory care facility. If a patient doesn't meet their care criteria, or they are unable to provide the cares needed, they can and will certainly discharge a patient. That doesn't mean they have to go home. But they will have to find an appropriate level of care facility.

In this family's case, if mom was dumped into a LTC facility because she was homeless, broke, and no other family members wanted to take her in, then if she is re-evaluated and found to be capable of living independently, she can apply for social services, low income senior housing, but the family are NOT obligated to take her in and take care of her.

If mom is in this situation because of her own bad choices, then she will suffer the consequences of a lifetime of bad decisions. It does NOT fall to the grown children to take care of her and rescue her just because she is "mom".
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It's common for a resident to improve after placement in LTC. They are fed and medicated regularly, socialized, etc. Why do you think mom may not requalify? Dementia certainly does not improve. Nor is it linear, meaning she can have good days and bad. Now, if she suddenly scores a great number on a cognition test, that's another matter.

In 8 months time, things can change dramatically, so imo, now is not the time to worry.
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Stardust Apr 28, 2026
Honestly, she got in by the skin of her teeth to begin with and the issues that got her in there have improved quite a bit. She's currently the most functional person in the facility she's living in. :( I don't want to worry, but definitely want to be prepared for the worst case scenario.
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I would talk to the admissions admins now to see where she is in medically qualifying. It's either her doctor or the admins who decide this. Don't wait to find out...
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Stardust Apr 28, 2026
Ok, I will. We're currently in the process of getting her moved to a closer facility, so I'll talk to the admin of the one she's in now.
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