My husband and I are both 75. He has Parkinson’s palsy, diabetes, and vascular dementia. I have a caregiver for my husband 5 days a week, from 9 am to 3 pm. He sleeps between breakfast and lunch then again lunch to dinner. I’ve stressed myself out trying to do everything and just can’t push anymore. So, what should I expect from a caregiver?
Changing bedding
Cleaning the bathroom, in general light housekeeping is normal for a caregiver.
Changing your husband when he is wet or soiled.
Just having someone there so you can run to the store.
Having someone there so you can go have lunch with friends, attend a Support Group, get your hair done....
And maybe get your husband out for a walk (only if it is safe to do so. He could be pushed in a wheelchair, or if using a walker make sure your husband has a Gait Belt on to make it safer for him and the caregiver)
I used to fix my husbands lunch and the caregiver would heat it up and give him lunch when I was out. I would make a LOT of soups and freeze them in pint jars and take a few out and thaw them in the fridge, the caregiver would pull one out, heat it up. Easy lunch.
The caregiver can also be tasked with giving your husband a shower a few times a week. That is one less stressful thing you have to do.
(sometimes caregivers are a lot better at giving showers than a family member is.)
I cannot drive anymore. My caregiver takes me where I need to go, we use my car. I can take care of my own bodily needs . She makes my bed, does my cooking, I hate to cook and it hurts my back to stand for long periods. She makes my bed and keeps the floor clean. I use Instacart for groceries, she puts them away and takes out my trash. I have a cleaning lady that comes once a month to deep clean my apartment. I hired my caregiver through a service. it is expensive, but if Yolanda cannot make it they are the ones who find a replacement for me. Also, she has workman's comp and other insurance.
The homecare agency supplies a careplan that the caregiver follows. There's supposed to be a meeting with the client and/or their representative to discuss what the caregiver's duties will be.
I go on these kinds meetings all the time int he client's home. I check out a place and people before I even consider sending one of my caregivers in.
I get people all the time who write down what they want and expect from the caregiver. They have all the plans laid out in black and white.
Then they get told, I don't think so. The caregiver for the client in the home is who gets the help. We are not coming to clean out your basement or wash a week's worth of dishes or cook you and your family gourmet meals. If you expect a full staff of domestic servants all in one person, you don't understand what homecare is or how it works.
clean himself: shower/bath, hair, teeth
groom: comb/brush hair, shave, put on deodorant, cologne
help him dress
help him toilet: transfer to and from commode, wipe afterwards, clean hands
meals: prepare his plate of food, light cooking only, feed, clean up dishes afterwards
remind him to take his medications - only a nurse can dispense medications
check his blood glucose - you will need to give insulin
socialize - talk to him, help him with hobby/activity
light housework - straighten up room, clean up messes made by hubby at the time it happens, empty garbage can when full, wipe counter/table after meal/activity
Many CNA's are medication certified these days and can give the clients their meds.
You're spot on about everything else.
Now if you are paying for help for both of you, she should be doing for you too. As listed below, she should be doing laundry, dishes, shopping and light housekeeping. And also helping both of you with physical help.
So much of the time I am told by wives to NOT take care of hubby, but there had to be some reason that he got all these hours of care ok'd by the VA. I am sure the wife didn't say I'm just gonna have her come in here and clean the house because that would not be a legit reason to get home health. We are to do LIGHT housekeeping... We don't come in and clean the whole house. We don't come in and clean kitchens and bathrooms and other areas of the house that are filthy. What we do is this: We are to clean up after ourselves, We clean up what we have used, messed up while taking care of our patient. We don't make meals for everybody. We don't do everybody's laundry. We are not to clean up after everybody's messes, including their dishes and the kitchen or anything else the family does. We do not make meals for everybody in the household And we do not go get fast food for everybody in the family. We are not housekeepers. Please do not take advantage of aides.
Yes , There are care plans on every patient but I have families much of the time claim that what I tell them is on the care plan is not what they said they asked for!!!
Just to let you know-- I have been doing this for thirty years and I am now 71 years old. I'm still working doing this and they still try to get me to do things they have to know that we're not supposed to be doing??? . It is sad. And caregivers get abused. And by the way , I have also been a nurse and if they end up finding out, they try to get me to do nursing duties.
You should have refused all of it. If you were hired to do personal care for the husband and light housekeeping then that is what you do.
I myself did this line of work for 25 years in the field (both agency-hired and private-duty) and now have my own homecar agency.
If you are working through a homecar agency, you do only what is outlined in the agency careplan. That is all. I never deviated from what was on the careplan when I worked for homecare agencies. The job pays minimum wage usually or just above.
You think I was ever got up on a ladder and clean a chandelier? Or mow a lawn?
Fat chance.
Often the caregiver has to explain to a client's family what our job actually is. We are not a domestic servant available to the whole family.
Private care is different. The caregiver basically designs their own job. I'd do all kinds of work if a client and their family met my price, but not if they didn't.
What does dh need, precisely, when it comes to toileting, feeding, bathing and transferring? What isn’t your caregiver doing regarding these?
I am not sure if I understand your question well. However, in my view, you have to decide who is the main caregiver, you or the hired hand? The roles must be well defined, and you have to provide proper supervision to make sure everything goes as you have planned it.
I was 65 years old when my wife was diagnosed with FTD. I knew that I was not going to be able to care for her alone. That is why I got started with hiring and training aides to provide proper care for my wife at home. I chose the more difficult alternative of hiring directly rather than choosing the service providers route because I thought I could manage the process more effectively.
I quote a few paragraphs of my recent book "Dementia Care Companion", available from Amazon which I consider related to your question:
Do Your Due Diligence
Remember that you are inviting this person into the inner sanctum of your home and entrusting them with the care of someone extremely vulnerable. As much as you may be eager to get started, do not lose sight of the fact that a bad match can be a lot harder to undo than you might expect.
· Ask the applicants about their previous work experience. Ask for references and contact them to get their views about the applicants and their abilities, personality, and work ethic.
· When you find a suitable applicant, do a background check to make sure everything is as it appears and there are no hidden issues or unpleasant surprises down the road.
Prepare and Sign a Formal Contract
· Write up a job description and go through it in detail with the candidate. Discuss work hours, what needs to be done for and with the patient, any cooking or cleaning, and so on. This job description must be flexible so it can be updated as needed over time.
· With the help of your legal advisor, prepare a contract spelling out working conditions, responsibilities, compensation, justified and unjustified absences, the existence of a monitoring device such as a closed-circuit television (CCTV), and so on.
· Have the contract signed by both you and the applicant, and witnessed by at least one impartial body, before having the applicant come to work.
Train the New Staff Properly
The training period for a new aide will vary according to the complexity of the work. Caregiving is delicate work and learning to do it safely cannot be rushed. Take the time to make sure the new aide learns the nuances of care, such as the intricacies of how to handle, move, and feed the patient.
· Before you leave a new aide alone with your loved one, make sure that they know what their duties are and can perform them well.
· Train the new aide in emergency procedures, such as falls and fires. Periodically review the procedures with everyone to make sure they know what to do in case of an emergency.
Provide Clear Supervision
An experienced aide understands the caregiving needs of dementia patients and is familiar with most of the issues that are part and parcel of this condition. However, even experienced staff need proper supervision to make sure that everyone is pulling in the same direction, and everything is done according to the broader roadmap.
· Have a single person in charge of supervision and management of hired staff. Do not let friends and family members bombard a new aide with a request here and a critique there.
· Let everyone know that all suggestions or comments regarding the care process should go through a single individual tasked with supervision and management of the hired staff.
Stay Vigilant
· Use closed-circuit television (CCTV) in the rooms frequented by the patient and the aides. Let the new aide know that you have a monitoring system installed, and preferably, state this fact in their contract. Unfortunately, patient abuse is a reality and people with dementia may be unable to report such cases to anyone.
· Keep expensive items, jewelry, and cash in a secure place. will help gi
Still plugging the book, huh?
Here's the fool-proof simplified way to hire a private caregiver who will be the right fit for the job.
Advertise on a caregiver website EXACTLY what you're looking for.
1) Put it right in your advertisement that any caregivers applying for the position must bring their own police backround check and it must go back five years.
2) Anyone applying must produce at least three homecare work references that you can personally, literally speak to on the phone. Then ask these references about the caregiver and what kind of work they did for the client.
3) Insist on a clean drug test (the potential hire supplies this) that was done within the last 90 days.
When you're doing the interviewing don't beat around the bush about what you're willing to pay or what the work is going to be.
Don't tell the caregiver that the client is a little 'forgetful' and has the ocassional 'accident' when in fact the client is completely out-of-it with dementia and totally incontinent.
If you're expecting full housekeeping services, don't tell the caregiver they will be doing a bit of light cleaning up.
Be totally honest about what the job is actually going to be, what you're looking for, and what you're paying.
You will get the right person for the job providing you're willing to pay enough.