My mom is suffering with parkinsons related dementia. She has major hallucinations. Tonight we were watching tv together and she suddenly came towards me very agitated. She thought I was having relations with my dad (he is deceased). I couldn't calm her down so I left the room. She also thinks I'm stealing from her. I have to say it really makes it harder when the person you are caring for full time is not happy with you.
Don't take it personally--Draw the Line! Come to grips with the current reality!
It is a strange phenomenon but to survive the craziness, please realize it is about a brain failing, it's not about your relationship. So sad. I'm sorry:( xo
I have a co-wrkr whose mother is in the same facility, and when she was put on antibiotics, her dementia worsened considerably. Once she came off them, she resumed a more normal life - as normal goes for her. I think this may be my mother's issue but do not know if she is still on the antibiotics or not. I am waiting for a call back from her nurse.
The only thing you can do is walk away for a while, as hard as it is to do without getting angry yourself. I know my feelings of anger do surface because I just can't understand it when it happens as this is all very new to me.......... VERY NEW!!!
I agree with donnacecilia, the more you attempt to calm them down, the more agitated they become. I watched my brother try to "reason with her" and he would not listen to me, finally he just gave in and figured out I was right! let it go, walk away.