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Office; I just want to say, I'm 64 years old and outside of my family, I count myself lucky to have three or 4 really good friends; folks I can call up and say "come" and they will. I have a lot of acquaintances, people in my religious community, people in my building who I'm friendly with, but real friends? They are hard to find and hard to keep.

This past year, one of those friends become seriously depressed and was hospitalized. No one wanted to go visit her (you REALLY find out who your friends are when you're in the psych unit, trust me on this!).

Recently, one of my daughters was fretting about going to visit a friend who had had a miscarriage. She was fussing that she really didn't want to go, it was uncomfortable , etc.

I talked about how much I hadn't wanted to visit my friend in the psych unit. And how being a friend means that you show up. When you're needed, not when it feels good.

So, try to BE that sort of friend to someone.
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I'm one of the 'happy to be alone" persons, although I do need regular doses of being with friends, which I luckily still have many. I think being single and childless helps you find like minded friends and we make an effort to stick together. I have many interests and see beauty everywhere. Life hasn't been easy for me the past few years but I count my blessings every day. (You're probably hating me right now, but that's OK. : ) Anyhow, I feel for you and do think a part-time job, volunteering or joining a book club would be just what you need to turn your outlook around. I wish you the best!
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Just get to DOING Something with Someone.
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Thanks, all; I do in fact volunteer & belong to 2 book clubs and do try to "just get to DOING Something with Someone" (other than the bk clubs & volunteering), but get a lot of thanks-but-no-thanks-not-my-cuppa-tea. I've discovered thru the above-mentioned bk clubs & volunteering that the other gals in my age grp stay very busy with grand/great-grandkids & church (which are not my cuppa tea) & the gals younger than I (espec. the liberal ones around here are always a *lot* younger than I) are busy working, careers, etc. So I've been trying for over 10 yrs now but no luck; so I think I should do as some1 stated above: get used to being alone (which is getting harder & harder as most things do the older you get). Oh, well, I tried; sometimes you just have to face facts & call it a day.
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I worked and had friends at the places I worked but once we stopped working I really didn't hear from them again. I tried to keep in touch but it always seemed a one way street. So I stopped. Just saw a high school friend that went her way after she married. She said we all (other high school friend) need to get together for lunch or dinner. Will it happen, I don't know. Even my BFF since Kindergarten do I see enough but we keep in touch. I am married to my friend. I have two girls and two grants. I have found as I get older, not to expect anything from people. Just take what comes along. I have lunch once a month with a group of ladies I know. Most graduated a year behind me but I have known them since school. Have a friend from when I worked 50 yrs ago we just connected again. We have breakfast about once a month. Hubby and I don't socialize much mainly because he is almost deaf and can't understand what is being said. Yes, sometimes it bothers me. But at our age it's hard to get together with other couples. They have already formed their group of friend they have had for years. My husband does golf so that's his socializing and I have my breakfasts and lunches.
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To be honest Facebook got me back in touch with people.
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