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I have Fibromyalgia & have pain & fatigue like you are describing. You can find more info on Fibromyalgia on the internet. But just the stress of being a caregiver can also cause these problems. I agree, a trip to the doctor is needed. I'm sorry you are hurting. Good luck & keep us posted.
livingontheedge, I hope you will make the effort and take the time to see a doctor. This is a very stressful time for you, and seeing your father with advanced cancer has got to hurt emotionally. You do need some help. Can Hospice come to your home?
Keep in mind that your physical pain may have other causes instead of or in addition to your caregiving burden. It is very important that the doctor you see knows about your caregiving, and also that you get the same thorough evaluation that you would get if you weren't doing caregiving. I say this because I once had a doctor conclude that all my symptoms were the result of caregiving, until I finally got myself to an ER and they diagnosed and treated a physical ailment.
Please seek medical help for yourself, sooner rather than later.
I so agree with Carol and Jane about going to the doctor and finding a support group. Also, if you can work exercise into your schedule - also yoga and some form of meditation. I know it's difficult to do and I'm guilty of not doing enough of these stress relievers. I also had resisted finding a support group - but when I did; it saved my sanity. Elder Services in your town might be a great place to start. I can't say enough about the trained professionals provided by this agency. And there is no cost.
It's a hard road going it alone; but as Carol said we are cheering you on. Will keep you in my prayers. Feel better and take care.
Thank you!! And yes it is Ibuprofen..He is in Hospices.. But doing it by my shelf.. My Daughter helps when she can. But no other family help .They just give me trouble.... I'm on FMLA.. been out of work for about 2 weeks now.. Don't know weather to go back or not... Ugggg Thanks for your Help!!
JaneB has it right. See your doctor. The stress of caregiving can make nearly any caregiver feel close to the "edge" on occasion, but if that feeling is a way of life, you need more support. Please try the National Family Caregiver Support Program in your state (you'll find it on your state website under "aging", most likely). You also may want to consider counseling to help you cope with all that you have on your plate. Take care of yourself, Carol
You are exactly right -- go to the doctor. Tell them what is going on and ask for referrals to home health care for some assistance with your Dad; see if you can find a care givers support group (often free or no cost) so you can be helped by, and offer help (when you are able) to others. It will allow to feel part of a community and less alone.
I'm not sure what "IBU" is that you are taking. I'm wondering if its ibuprofen? Sometimes, when people take a bunch of that over a long period of time, they get a sort of re-bound impact which can cause headaches and body aches. So be sure to tell the doc about this (even if my guess that IBU is ibuprofen is wrong).
You've taken a hard step: saying you need help. GETTING help can't ever happen without that step first. You're halfway there! We are cheering you forward.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
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If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
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This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
Keep in mind that your physical pain may have other causes instead of or in addition to your caregiving burden. It is very important that the doctor you see knows about your caregiving, and also that you get the same thorough evaluation that you would get if you weren't doing caregiving. I say this because I once had a doctor conclude that all my symptoms were the result of caregiving, until I finally got myself to an ER and they diagnosed and treated a physical ailment.
Please seek medical help for yourself, sooner rather than later.
It's a hard road going it alone; but as Carol said we are cheering you on. Will keep you in my prayers. Feel better and take care.
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Take care of yourself,
Carol
I'm not sure what "IBU" is that you are taking. I'm wondering if its ibuprofen? Sometimes, when people take a bunch of that over a long period of time, they get a sort of re-bound impact which can cause headaches and body aches. So be sure to tell the doc about this (even if my guess that IBU is ibuprofen is wrong).
You've taken a hard step: saying you need help. GETTING help can't ever happen without that step first. You're halfway there! We are cheering you forward.