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Call Dad once in a while. Have a pleasant topic in mind and keep the call short. It may not do much for your dad, but it may help your sister feel supported.
Your sister only has him for a month. Most of us can survive 30 days with a depressed person with unrealistic expectations. She'll get through this! It would probably help if all of you set some boundaries, for your own sakes. "Dad, I"m happy to hear about your concerns and issues, even thought there isn't much I can do about them. But I need to limit this to 1/2 hour per day. It is too distressing to me to do more than that." ... "Dad, we talked about this already today. I don't think anything has changed since this morning, so let's talk about something else now."
I feel sorry for your dad. I really do. Cut him some slack. But don't be afraid to protect yourselves as well!
It was good of you to locate a psychotherapist for him, but I can understand that the stress of a one-hour trip each way might make it impractical. What about his medications? Who is monitoring those? I wonder if some adjustment might be needed there.
BTW, why is he spending a month with your sister? Would shorter visits more often be a better way to handle that?
Actually, my Dad is visiting with my sister out of state in Montana for the month. He is 83, physically healthy, memory is intact. Challenge is that he has become more anxious and aggitated in the past year. My step mom passed away 18 months ago. He was a school teacher till age 70, volunteered , was in China just a year ago for 2 weeks. Was very independent in the past but is becoming more frail. He puts a lot of pressure on my sister to listen, deal with his unhappiness. He lives in Boston and I found a psychotherapist for him to see, but he had to take 1 hr transport to see her, so decided it was too much. He is on medication(has been for 50 years for anxiety and depression). He has burned many bridges with family and friends. If you disagree with him he feels offended and threatened and will insult or cut you off. So my sister wants all 5 siblingss + grand children to call him while he is visiting her in in Montana for the month, to help reduce the stress. Problem is, it's awkward on the phone, he can't hear well, and becomes impatient. I told my sister she can't be responsible for his happiness, but she struggles because he gulits her typical(co-dependency) is unfortunately an issue. What to do?
Could you say a little more about the situation, maureenm? Are you living with your father? Your profile says he has depression. Is he being treated for this? Is he following the treatment plan? Does he have other impairments that require the help of a caregiver?
Is this anger something new? What kinds of expectations does he have that are a problem for you.
I suspect that there are a lot of people who can relate to this, but we'll need a little more detail.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
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If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
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This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
Your sister only has him for a month. Most of us can survive 30 days with a depressed person with unrealistic expectations. She'll get through this! It would probably help if all of you set some boundaries, for your own sakes. "Dad, I"m happy to hear about your concerns and issues, even thought there isn't much I can do about them. But I need to limit this to 1/2 hour per day. It is too distressing to me to do more than that." ... "Dad, we talked about this already today. I don't think anything has changed since this morning, so let's talk about something else now."
I feel sorry for your dad. I really do. Cut him some slack. But don't be afraid to protect yourselves as well!
It was good of you to locate a psychotherapist for him, but I can understand that the stress of a one-hour trip each way might make it impractical. What about his medications? Who is monitoring those? I wonder if some adjustment might be needed there.
BTW, why is he spending a month with your sister? Would shorter visits more often be a better way to handle that?
Is this anger something new? What kinds of expectations does he have that are a problem for you.
I suspect that there are a lot of people who can relate to this, but we'll need a little more detail.