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We posted some recipes in the ship's galley. KB's idea, and a great one, at that! You'll HAVE to stop by and see some pictures of our boats. We have some places for uncensored vents, as well. Again, Kelley did that for us; ~gotta love her for that!!!
I love that little easter lambie pie pic. Aw so cute maybe for easter I should find a Pirate bunny pic. - google will probably have one of Hef's bunnies with a pirate hat on....LOL. Oh wait, here I am babling and I have news....okay so last week mom had the second intestinal x-ray done. She was harping all weekend and Monday about doctor visits and outcomes and on and on...and her famous spiel on Sunday - she's going to die....which really did a number on me Monday morning and had a little breakdown....okay so she was going on and on about having her caregiver call the doctor's office. So yesterday the caregiver left me a message on my cell phone..(guess mom was after her to call the doctor's office)..so she says she called and said the x-ray was fine everything is clear and there is no BLOCKAGE. Okay...that's good right...naw...she says my mom was pissed that it came back negative,..ha ha ha...go figure...she's saying the doctor's are wrong and my daughter is going to call and find out..blah blah blah. She says my mom was bad yesterday that usually means she was cranky and persnickety. She said they stayed home and she fed her stuff and made her take a nap, which she hates to do when people are there. So then last eve I had to go over there to take both our tax paperwork to the taxman, when I got back she had remembered that I said I would bring Chicken Dijon, and I actually didn't because the caregiver said she fed her all kinds of stuff and I really didn't think she was going to eat, cause all weekend she's pissing and moaning about not eating anymore cause of her mystical constipation. So I had to run back out and get her a meal, and then I ran into Ralphs to try to find those damned bottled prunes...you can't flipping find them anymore..WHAT'S UP WITH THAT? So when I got back I made her a plate of Chick Dijon, some chicken breast, some rice pilaf and some steamed vegies...boy she ripped into that. Oh I guess it's okay to eat now.....since all the damned constipation was all in the head...I guess she thinks she is still supposed to go everyday and when you get older all that slows down,....so I went through 5 weeks of consti-drama for nuthin'. Also comprised my own health along the way. Frick and Frack...this is mental and physical hell...what a waste of time. I am sure I did not drive her mad as a cute diaper pooping baby!!!!!!!!!
Okay anybody got good empanda dough recipes?
Okay about cafemom, how do I get started again? Is it an online chat or just a blog like this?
Im so tired today.. was fighting with mom around 4am about .. well the usual.. im so glad youre trying to relax.. youll be in a better mindset for.. The Headache
To your story.. honestly it sounded like your mom isnt feeling well and she KNOWS somethings going on and frustrated when tests are coming back negative. my mom has done the same. as far as food.. im sorry.. i cant remember, what are her health problems? uhh the real ones? lol
certain illnesses will actually effect your taste buds.. not only that.. when youre dealing with dementia patients, paranoia can set in what your're eating.. theres just alot of variables..
i know this is alot to ask.. but maybe have mom in the kitchen with you while you cook? even have her help.. when its more hands on, they tend to feel better that its not contaminated and cooked the way they like it lol i know, its a headache maybe.. but better her not eating at all..and of course, cooking in very small portions is a must..
Just taking a break from cleaning up the house for my niece's visit tomorrow. Hubby's back is bad but he's doing stuff and I'm helping him. Gotta love him!! :)
K. Gotta get back to work. Let's see. Gotta bake a cake, do some dusting, sweep the floor, go to the bank and the car wash (if they're open) and gosh there's got to be more. Oh yeah, make the bed for niece. Get stuff off the floor and furniture for the carpet cleaners. Hubby helped me put the curtains back up. We just cut out the lining and hung em and they look pretty darn good. Hubby wants pizza and a soda so gotta go.
I don't know what her real heath issues are everything I see coming back is normal...x-rays , blood tests, urine tests, ekg...I think it's all part of the necessary NPD narcisstic feed supply...they constantly need some kind of drama to feed off of. I think she's running out of ideas since she cannot fight with neighbors anymore she's too old for that. In fact shes afraid of being sighted by neighbors because she has a history on the block of countless episodes and police visits...now she thinks they are all watching. The only time she goes out the door is if she's getting into a car. All part of my mothers mental personality disorder. I read last year on a site dedicated to NPD that they get worse as they age...and they tend to edge towards dementia. So taking the mommy-roller coaster ride everyday. I don't know if it's going to be the low end or the high end of the roller coaster.
Okay I am taking a sick day today I feel wiped out....gonna make some cherry turnovers using this as pastry crust...let me know if you guys have used this already
I found the cutest empanda/turnover/calzone molds yesterday at Ross...4 different sizes all for 3.49. So I am empanada stricken right now...a few weeks ago it was deep dish pizza...I think cooking is becoming a stress reliever for me. Oh and making pot roast for dinner...ah comfort food!
Austin, you can come, too. There's plenty of room for widows there. We're your friends, remember? It's not just for "young" moms, which I am not. LOL So come on board!
Miz Demi! Your preparations sounds so great. When does your niece arrive? Have you been by the boat? KB said you have.
SS, we pick up my niece at 7:30 pm tomorrow at an Amtrak station about an hour from here. She's only gonna be here for one night. I think her train back leaves about 6:00 pm on Friday. I wish she could stay longer...
Wow, Miz, that's a lot of cleaning for one night! LOL Hope you have a wonderful time with her, and she with you. How's the hubby back? And how are you? With all that cleaning, I'll bet you are tired.
OK ladies, I got a message from the powers that be here, saying they had to remove some of my posts. They don't want me advertising for our boat @ the other place. Sigh. I said some really cool stuff to ya'll on those posts. :( Oh, well. Guess you know I love you. And I'm thankful, too. You realize there are seven of us on the boat so far? I have to go out of town tonight. Won't be back till late. Hope you ladies have an awesome evening. Don't eat all that biscotti, fudge, and cookies without me. And please save me a huge portion of KB's Chicken & Rice. Bless you all. Love you, too. See you on the boat! :)
SS, I am so very tired. And more to go tomorrow. It's really good though cause all this stuff needed done and it's very good motivation to get it done. I'm calling it my early spring cleaning. :)
Hi Pirate. I just tried to post something and it didn't work. I think it is confusing also. Thank goodness my chat works. I sure wish yours did. We'll see you in here though. :)
yep my internet browser is set by work so I can't change that and they don't allow any internet instant messaging either..I had found a chatroom one time..that hardly anybody used and it was simple to use..no signup or anything...I will try to find it again.
My mother-in-law insisted she could brush her teeth her self so we said o.k. go ahead, and she squirted hand soap on her tooth brush instead of toothpaste. (LOL) Sometimes you just have to laugh, and say "this is why you need us here to help you."
awww .once there was a guy who had alz . he wasnt allowed to have a cup in the bathroom . reasn why is cuz he doesnt know how to get water , sees water in the toilet and dip his cup there to drink it . its possible that your mother has alz or dementia . i stay in the bathroom with my pa , just to make sure he doesnt hurt himself . such as bathroom cleaning suplies . gotta watch em . its real sad . i hope in god s name i dont do that stuff when i get old , plz no lord ...
Yes, the folks with the dementia just get confused about things. They know it's water but what water is the big deal. They know that the toothpaste comes in a tube so neosporin could wind up on the toothbrush.
My mom simply saw the toothbrush and 'brush' was the operative word so she 'brushed' her hair.
VRose... he's going to ask questions over and over it's true and if that's what's going on now, you're cool for a minute! Just picture him with a band-aid on his poor head and it will remind you that he's just a little broken and hopefully help you with the patience and coping. It sure can drive ya nuts but that doesn't mean you don't love him totally!
You might have some time before the gross outs start and if and when that happens, just keep your sense of humor!
Are you caring for your dad in your home?
Linda it is real sad and that's why we have to find a way to not go down with the sad and try to stay afloat with the funny, honey.
yes i take care of pa in my home . he s cheery guy today . wakin up to see the sun s a shinin and its all smiles . makes me smile right along with him . talkin to me about tonisl this mornin at breakfast table . askin me if i still have mine , yep . he said his rottened out when he was a lit boy . i thought wow he s thinkin about tonsil haha . its great to see him perky and in a good mood . ok i need get perky upmyself . HOUSEWORK !!! ya all have a good day ..
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Oh wait, here I am babling and I have news....okay so last week mom had the second intestinal x-ray done. She was harping all weekend and Monday about doctor visits and outcomes and on and on...and her famous spiel on Sunday - she's going to die....which really did a number on me Monday morning and had a little breakdown....okay so she was going on and on about having her caregiver call the doctor's office. So yesterday the caregiver left me a message on my cell phone..(guess mom was after her to call the doctor's office)..so she says she called and said the x-ray was fine everything is clear and there is no BLOCKAGE. Okay...that's good right...naw...she says my mom was pissed that it came back negative,..ha ha ha...go figure...she's saying the doctor's are wrong and my daughter is going to call and find out..blah blah blah. She says my mom was bad yesterday that usually means she was cranky and persnickety. She said they stayed home and she fed her stuff and made her take a nap, which she hates to do when people are there. So then last eve I had to go over there to take both our tax paperwork to the taxman, when I got back she had remembered that I said I would bring Chicken Dijon, and I actually didn't because the caregiver said she fed her all kinds of stuff and I really didn't think she was going to eat, cause all weekend she's pissing and moaning about not eating anymore cause of her mystical constipation. So I had to run back out and get her a meal, and then I ran into Ralphs to try to find those damned bottled prunes...you can't flipping find them anymore..WHAT'S UP WITH THAT? So when I got back I made her a plate of Chick Dijon, some chicken breast, some rice pilaf and some steamed vegies...boy she ripped into that. Oh I guess it's okay to eat now.....since all the damned constipation was all in the head...I guess she thinks she is still supposed to go everyday and when you get older all that slows down,....so I went through 5 weeks of consti-drama for nuthin'. Also comprised my own health along the way. Frick and Frack...this is mental and physical hell...what a waste of time. I am sure I did not drive her mad as a cute diaper pooping baby!!!!!!!!!
Okay anybody got good empanda dough recipes?
Okay about cafemom, how do I get started again? Is it an online chat or just a blog like this?
Im so tired today.. was fighting with mom around 4am about .. well the usual.. im so glad youre trying to relax.. youll be in a better mindset for.. The Headache
certain illnesses will actually effect your taste buds.. not only that.. when youre dealing with dementia patients, paranoia can set in what your're eating.. theres just alot of variables..
i know this is alot to ask.. but maybe have mom in the kitchen with you while you cook? even have her help.. when its more hands on, they tend to feel better that its not contaminated and cooked the way they like it lol i know, its a headache maybe.. but better her not eating at all..and of course, cooking in very small portions is a must..
i hope i gave you a few ideas or something..
love yous,
miz
Okay I am taking a sick day today I feel wiped out....gonna make some cherry turnovers using this as pastry crust...let me know if you guys have used this already
1 stick butter
1 8 oz pkg cream cheese
1 1/2 cups flour
1 tsp sugar
I found the cutest empanda/turnover/calzone molds yesterday at Ross...4 different sizes all for 3.49. So I am empanada stricken right now...a few weeks ago it was deep dish pizza...I think cooking is becoming a stress reliever for me. Oh and making pot roast for dinner...ah comfort food!
Miz Demi! Your preparations sounds so great. When does your niece arrive? Have you been by the boat? KB said you have.
Love you, all!
Lov U too, Miz and Rep, and KB, and Lucy. ((((Lucy)))) come on board...
OK ladies, I got a message from the powers that be here, saying they had to remove some of my posts. They don't want me advertising for our boat @ the other place. Sigh. I said some really cool stuff to ya'll on those posts. :( Oh, well. Guess you know I love you. And I'm thankful, too. You realize there are seven of us on the boat so far? I have to go out of town tonight. Won't be back till late. Hope you ladies have an awesome evening. Don't eat all that biscotti, fudge, and cookies without me. And please save me a huge portion of KB's Chicken & Rice. Bless you all. Love you, too. See you on the boat! :)
love,
miz
been working my tailbones off getting ready for nj tomorrow. drama already with the nj folks. pitiful.
going over to mom's in a minute to fix up her bed nice and pretty.
Miz: hope you had/are having a good time with your neice and your husband's back is feeling better. Love ya!
SS: love you kiddo and hope you're doing well and are happy
Rep: whassup and love ya!
KB: yo KB, love ya hang in there
Maxine: can't wait to see you on the boat!
PirateGal: yer a hero buddy, talk to you soon and love ya!
Everyone i missed; be safe and sound and talk to you soon!
lovbob
its possible that your mother has alz or dementia .
i stay in the bathroom with my pa , just to make sure he doesnt hurt himself . such as bathroom cleaning suplies .
gotta watch em .
its real sad . i hope in god s name i dont do that stuff when i get old , plz no lord ...
Hey Linda and hey VRose!
Yes, the folks with the dementia just get confused about things. They know it's water but what water is the big deal. They know that the toothpaste comes in a tube so neosporin could wind up on the toothbrush.
My mom simply saw the toothbrush and 'brush' was the operative word so she 'brushed' her hair.
VRose... he's going to ask questions over and over it's true and if that's what's going on now, you're cool for a minute! Just picture him with a band-aid on his poor head and it will remind you that he's just a little broken and hopefully help you with the patience and coping. It sure can drive ya nuts but that doesn't mean you don't love him totally!
You might have some time before the gross outs start and if and when that happens, just keep your sense of humor!
Are you caring for your dad in your home?
Linda it is real sad and that's why we have to find a way to not go down with the sad and try to stay afloat with the funny, honey.
lovbob
talkin to me about tonisl this mornin at breakfast table . askin me if i still have mine , yep . he said his rottened out when he was a lit boy . i thought wow he s thinkin about tonsil haha .
its great to see him perky and in a good mood .
ok i need get perky upmyself . HOUSEWORK !!!
ya all have a good day ..