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Mame-i did that too with cats it works pretty good. I had one cat that I would put in a zipped pills case zip it to hos neck then give him the pill gushed would rip me to shreds with his claws.
I hope you feel better, the stress lessens. Do something to pamper yourself.
Once a long time ago, my cat needed pills and the Vet gave me this thing that you held like a syringe but the pill was at the end in stead of a needle. You open the cats mouth and put the syringe in toward the back and push the little button on the end and the pill pops into the back of the throat and you quickly close cat's mouth and massage the throat so they have to swallow it. Worked great! I am going insane. The stress of the last couple weeks with my son is coming in on me. I feel ill, headache, stomach ache etc. Mom has been fine-until just now, she had one of her vagal seizure thingys on the commode... I didn't see it coming-no warning signs at all! I somehow got her to stand somewhat while I cleaned her behind and got the Depends up and plopped her into bed. I just don't need any more stress!!!!! She is sleeping peacefully now. I am just sitting here shaking my head. Funny thing-Hospice called today to see how she is doing! That was early this morning. My son is doing ok at school and is happy to be back. I hope he will be ok. It is gonna be a long 6 months on blood thinners! And then surgery! HA! No stress in my life...nope... Wish I could cry. So tired. Mame
Lildeb~good to hear your arm is better. I am in the process of making my appt. for a flu shot, but waiting to hear from the nurse at the community as to whether they provide them for residents or if I need to take mom to her dr. If mom goes to the dr., we can both get it at same time.
Getting cats to swallow a pill is not fun. Tiger is good about eating his food with the liquid meds mixed in. I was so glad the vet gave him an antibiotic shot good for 10 days after his procedure last week.
Jen, cats do have some sharp teethes n pretty smart too when it comes to given a pill. Save your fingers for You r just going have to out-wit the kitty : )
I'm fine, I think she just hit the muscle a bit too hard n too high. It's a whole lot better today. Pretty bad when u have to use both hands just to lift a glass to drink your water. You couldn't even lay on it n u could see where it was swollen. I have never had that much pain from a flu shots. maybe a little soreness but not painful. I'm just glad it a lot better. Thanks all. Meanwhile, that was so funny about your Shepard n the cat corner it. lol I hope everyone else is doing okay?
My mom had a bad reaction to a flu shot once. She ended up with a bump, bigger that an squeeter bite. she went to the doc, he said his nurse did not inject it right, all the serum was just under the skin causing an infection. They had to give her another shot and antibiotics.
Aww, getting a pill down a cat. That is a tough one. Hope; your cat is getting better, Jen. The cats sure do rule. My fat old,declawed, house cat beats up both my dogs. One morning I walked into the living room, and cat had one of the dogs cornered, just smacking the heck out of her, while she cowered on the floor, this is a 70 pound German shepherd, boxer, pit bull mix. She has tangled with full grown racoons and won, (the dog). Poured a new concrete sidewalk at the adobe house today. The old one sloped towards the front door. Need I say more. Shayrn, hope your eye is getting better, sounds like quite a fall. Take care of yourself. Deb, I didn't think flu shots were supposed to cause that much reaction. If your arm is still sore tomorrow, maybe you should call Dr and ask?
meanwhile, u poor thing what a stinky mess you had. At least it fixed now. I hope u were able to get that disinfected shower n feeling April fresh. ; )
Jen, so sorry about your kitty. Have u tried cat-nip to help calm your kitty down before taking to the vet? My cat will crawl all the way back toward the carrier like a bunny rabbit. It's as if they know where they r going before u get out of the door. I think I take those freaking keys from mom n do the driving myself. Of course, I am not n your shoes n have no idea how she is except it sounds like her driving would make me poo in my pants. Can u crush the pill up n put it n a spoon with water n suck it up in an eye dropper for your cat? U may be able to crush it up n add it to some can cat-food. I have to use the dropper for mine will turn their nose up at the food when I tried it. Good luck!
Sharyn, sorry to hear about your eye n it sounds very painful, ouchy poo! Mil n I got r flu shot n boy does my arm hurt like crazy! I had a hard time trying to sleep last due to it. It was a regular flu shot too. maybe I forgot what a little pain n soreness feels like? The mil's arm was hurting too but she hasn't complain today. I had gave both of us a Tylenol last night to help the soreness but that didn't seem to help much. Well, at least she not complaining so I will suck it up like a big girl. ; ) I hope everyone has a better weekday tomorrow. Well, I have a cat on my side n one above my head on my chair, I guess we know whose boss in this house.
I usually don't put any stock in Friday the 13th, but it's been a tough week for everyone. Guess I can't get away from the poop either. The adobe house we have been trying to make livable for the last 6 months had major toilet issues. I kept telling Indio and my stepdad it was not sitting level, and it rocked. Since the guys never sat on it, they kept ignoring it. Finally, got Indio to help me look at it. Tried tightening the bolts that hold it to the floor, no use, unbolted it, and sheesh the thing was just sitting on the sewer pipe, no floor joists holding it up. And of course the sewer pipe was broken (not leaking, but broken). Poor Indio he has a low gross threshold, but we got the toilet secured and put back together, took half a day, but finally done. I want to take a shower in disinfectant. LOL
Gah everyone having pet troubles and scared i will be next. trip to vet for rabies turned into !30 dollars of blood work, a diagnosis of Thyroid disease ( manageable ) and that it may be hiding something else ( not manageable ) God...I can't take any more please...Moms out getting CLEO's meds this morning another $ she is gonna pretend I don't have. Mnnmmm How to give a cat a pill...this will be good...She was so upset at the vet she had to be sedated for blood draw. I heard the screaming, I thought she was gonna have a heart attack in the back! God my poor little cat. (13). Then still upset in the car moms driving starting to put me in fear for my life "WHOA!" I said as a car came barreling toward us... "JENNY SHUT UP!!!" " I knew I had time..." yeah been a swell week here again... Oh well, wrote out my "three resume' contacts" for therapy app. Monday, so what ever... else moving forward...ish... There goes Monty, mom has been gone seven minutes, he will howl till she gets home...
I hope the news on your husband is good news lil, or if they catch it quick enough it is usually in a fixable state as well. thinking of you...
Hi all n popping in to check on you all. sounds like a lot going on at this topic too. Of course, when is their never something going on. Juju, sorry about your little cat. We just had to put down my mil’s dog due to cancer tumor came back n her spleen had swollen. She was a very sick 14yr old pup. I always hate doing it but it was best to get her out of the pain.
Bobbie, it seems like poop is r job no matter what. I started when I was growing up with horses then diapers, animals-pets n now the mil’s poop on the wall or sink. we just cannot seem to get away from it or the bull-shit too. lol I just had to throw that one in for everyone. I keep being told that this is only going to get harder! I don’t think I can handle any harder n she is pretty independent as for walking n getting dressed n bathroom. Awe Sharyn, what about the vet place would they take care of your kitty real good so u can go on that vacation? If not, I fully understand. I hope u get to enjoy your time alone n Get out of the house too for its your break too. I hope all else r doing alright n will try to come back n catch up on more reading when I can get some time. hubby out of town for school n has to do it on Saturday with no extra pay. What has r education system come to now? At least their meals r paid for but a certain limit, gas n rooms. I may just roll over with joy with all that extra crap. At least he likes his job. They r going to check him for prostate cancer the 19th. I am hoping it just bladder infection. We won't know anything until 25th of this month. The not knowing that kill me n I am trying not to be a worry wart around him. At least mil is okay. Now, if I can get her bills paid. since she was on hospice, none of her bills r paid by medicare. So, I dropped all 14 pages that medicare sent us n gave them to hospice being she will no longer qualify after the 21 of this month. None of that makes any sense. I think I will look for another hospice if or when we need it again. Sorry about babbling. I hope everyone can get some much needed rest.
Mame, you deserve boat time with all you've been through with your mom and your son. Glad to hear he is well enough to go back to school. Shayrn, sorry about your cat, and missing vacation. I can't say anything, I've done the same when I had a sick dog one time.
Scared to let him go ...but the boy is going back to school tomorrow. Hope he uses good judgment and makes good choices and takes care of himself. He will do PT at school for the knee. No surgery till off the blood thinners and proof of clots gone. Deep breath..... Mom is mom. Nothing new on that front. Guess that is a good thing right? Haha. Sorry you can't go on vacation Sharyn. Hugs! Hope you get lots done tho and can enjoy some alone time. Jen-I hope it is nearer the end...we can fantasize about it anyway! Hope everyone has a good Friday and a decent weekend. Mame
Can't postpone the vacation so hubby is going to Idaho without me. I will stay home, take care of my cat, have about 5 days without hubby here so i can get a lot done.
Juju, so sorry about your old cat. 17 is really getting up there for a cat, and I'm sure he had a great life. Shayrn, glad to hear your mom is settling in. Hopefully, things will get easier for you. Jen sorry your still stuck in limbo.
Hi everyone, just a quick update. Mom is going great, no more rashes since we switched laundry soap. My kitty Tiger has an abscess that nature has taken care of, but he still has to undergo a wound cleaning tomorrow and possible put a drain in it. I am checking now to see if my daughter, hubby and I can postpone our vaca because Tiger's wound won't be healed enough by Sunday...don't want to put post-op care onto a family member while I go off to Idaho. Take care everyone!!
thinking of you juju, I know that pain and fear it is coming here soon too. you love them so much and give them a home the pain of the loss can only be tempered by that later on...
Hey bobbie, hope you are OK there...
love the tag on the right "I secretly wish my mother would die..." woman's a better soul than I, I openly wish fp would die...
what was it, I don't know...have a good rest of the week everyone.
I am still thinking of you and your loss juju...It shows you have a good heart and loved deeply. If that is any comfort just now to you...Jen
Hi everyone! Will update you after tomorrow's Dr appt. but things looking good for my son! Mom is doing ok too! Expecting heavy rain and hail, thunder and lightening here soon! Love a good storm! Juju-soooo sorry about your kitty. He lived a good life. Sweet thing. Jen-I hope you take a few bucks and stop at an ice cream parlor-or better yet-Chinese food! No selfishness on your part honey! Meanwhile-hope that itchiness on the horse goes away soon! Can't blame that on the laundry detergent! Sharyn-how is mom doing? Bobbie-still cleaning someone else's poop! Good God! NOOOOOOOO! Hello to everyone else out there! This is just a drive by! haha Mame
Oh Juju, I know what you mean and I think everyone here has had to do what you have done. It's another example of being a member in a club you really don't want to have to join. I can remember with crystal clarity each time I have had to make that decision and all of the moments leading up to and following it. The days after there is nothing to fill the void and we look to the spots where they would be and listen for their voices.
All losses of loves, two legged and four legged are devastating on their own levels and with their own intensities.
We are here on this boat dock, running it again for the people who normally do it.
Today's Topic: Pump Out. Ewwwwww. We just pumped out a sailboat's holding tank and man oh man. All in all it wasn't bad but I can't help but laugh at the fact that I am still dealing with someone else's poop.
Mame! I have thought about you over and over again ever since reading for the first time about your son and the terrible situation that he has found himself in. I hope that you can tell us that things are continuing to improve and that your blood pressure and hopefully your stress levels are decreasing. Hugs and good thoughts to you always.
Thank you...was ok yesterday afterward, relieved, but waking up today and that part of my routine missing is heartbreaking, time, time, time....come hurry up and wash this one away! Have a great day...
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I hope you feel better, the stress lessens. Do something to pamper yourself.
I am going insane. The stress of the last couple weeks with my son is coming in on me. I feel ill, headache, stomach ache etc. Mom has been fine-until just now, she had one of her vagal seizure thingys on the commode... I didn't see it coming-no warning signs at all! I somehow got her to stand somewhat while I cleaned her behind and got the Depends up and plopped her into bed. I just don't need any more stress!!!!! She is sleeping peacefully now. I am just sitting here shaking my head. Funny thing-Hospice called today to see how she is doing! That was early this morning.
My son is doing ok at school and is happy to be back. I hope he will be ok. It is gonna be a long 6 months on blood thinners! And then surgery! HA! No stress in my life...nope...
Wish I could cry. So tired.
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Getting cats to swallow a pill is not fun. Tiger is good about eating his food with the liquid meds mixed in. I was so glad the vet gave him an antibiotic shot good for 10 days after his procedure last week.
I'm fine, I think she just hit the muscle a bit too hard n too high. It's a whole lot better today. Pretty bad when u have to use both hands just to lift a glass to drink your water. You couldn't even lay on it n u could see where it was swollen. I have never had that much pain from a flu shots. maybe a little soreness but not painful. I'm just glad it a lot better. Thanks all.
Meanwhile, that was so funny about your Shepard n the cat corner it. lol
I hope everyone else is doing okay?
Pills will be twice a day after Oct. great great...rrrreeeeoooowww!
Poured a new concrete sidewalk at the adobe house today. The old one sloped towards the front door. Need I say more.
Shayrn, hope your eye is getting better, sounds like quite a fall. Take care of yourself.
Deb, I didn't think flu shots were supposed to cause that much reaction. If your arm is still sore tomorrow, maybe you should call Dr and ask?
Jen, so sorry about your kitty. Have u tried cat-nip to help calm your kitty down before taking to the vet? My cat will crawl all the way back toward the carrier like a bunny rabbit. It's as if they know where they r going before u get out of the door. I think I take those freaking keys from mom n do the driving myself. Of course, I am not n your shoes n have no idea how she is except it sounds like her driving would make me poo in my pants. Can u crush the pill up n put it n a spoon with water n suck it up in an eye dropper for your cat? U may be able to crush it up n add it to some can cat-food. I have to use the dropper for mine will turn their nose up at the food when I tried it. Good luck!
Sharyn, sorry to hear about your eye n it sounds very painful, ouchy poo!
Mil n I got r flu shot n boy does my arm hurt like crazy! I had a hard time trying to sleep last due to it. It was a regular flu shot too. maybe I forgot what a little pain n soreness feels like? The mil's arm was hurting too but she hasn't complain today. I had gave both of us a Tylenol last night to help the soreness but that didn't seem to help much. Well, at least she not complaining so I will suck it up like a big girl. ; )
I hope everyone has a better weekday tomorrow. Well, I have a cat on my side n one above my head on my chair, I guess we know whose boss in this house.
Then still upset in the car moms driving starting to put me in fear for my life "WHOA!" I said as a car came barreling toward us...
"JENNY SHUT UP!!!" " I knew I had time..."
yeah been a swell week here again...
Oh well, wrote out my "three resume' contacts" for therapy app. Monday, so what ever... else moving forward...ish...
There goes Monty, mom has been gone seven minutes, he will howl till she gets home...
I hope the news on your husband is good news lil, or if they catch it quick enough it is usually in a fixable state as well. thinking of you...
Moms home,,,Here Cleo...
Jen
Juju, sorry about your little cat. We just had to put down my mil’s dog due to cancer tumor came back n her spleen had swollen. She was a very sick 14yr old pup. I always hate doing it but it was best to get her out of the pain.
Bobbie, it seems like poop is r job no matter what. I started when I was growing up with horses then diapers, animals-pets n now the mil’s poop on the wall or sink. we just cannot seem to get away from it or the bull-shit too. lol I just had to throw that one in for everyone. I keep being told that this is only going to get harder! I don’t think I can handle any harder n she is pretty independent as for walking n getting dressed n bathroom.
Awe Sharyn, what about the vet place would they take care of your kitty real good so u can go on that vacation? If not, I fully understand. I hope u get to enjoy your time alone n Get out of the house too for its your break too.
I hope all else r doing alright n will try to come back n catch up on more reading when I can get some time. hubby out of town for school n has to do it on Saturday with no extra pay. What has r education system come to now? At least their meals r paid for but a certain limit, gas n rooms. I may just roll over with joy with all that extra crap. At least he likes his job. They r going to check him for prostate cancer the 19th. I am hoping it just bladder infection. We won't know anything until 25th of this month. The not knowing that kill me n I am trying not to be a worry wart around him. At least mil is okay. Now, if I can get her bills paid. since she was on hospice, none of her bills r paid by medicare. So, I dropped all 14 pages that medicare sent us n gave them to hospice being she will no longer qualify after the 21 of this month. None of that makes any sense. I think I will look for another hospice if or when we need it again. Sorry about babbling. I hope everyone can get some much needed rest.
Shayrn, sorry about your cat, and missing vacation. I can't say anything, I've done the same when I had a sick dog one time.
Mom is mom. Nothing new on that front. Guess that is a good thing right? Haha.
Sorry you can't go on vacation Sharyn. Hugs! Hope you get lots done tho and can enjoy some alone time.
Jen-I hope it is nearer the end...we can fantasize about it anyway!
Hope everyone has a good Friday and a decent weekend. Mame
Bobbi, I know your staying busy.
Shayrn, glad to hear your mom is settling in. Hopefully, things will get easier for you.
Jen sorry your still stuck in limbo.
Hey bobbie, hope you are OK there...
love the tag on the right "I secretly wish my mother would die..." woman's a better soul than I, I openly wish fp would die...
what was it, I don't know...have a good rest of the week everyone.
I am still thinking of you and your loss juju...It shows you have a good heart and loved deeply. If that is any comfort just now to you...Jen
Juju-soooo sorry about your kitty. He lived a good life. Sweet thing.
Jen-I hope you take a few bucks and stop at an ice cream parlor-or better yet-Chinese food! No selfishness on your part honey!
Meanwhile-hope that itchiness on the horse goes away soon! Can't blame that on the laundry detergent!
Sharyn-how is mom doing?
Bobbie-still cleaning someone else's poop! Good God! NOOOOOOOO!
Hello to everyone else out there! This is just a drive by! haha Mame
I can remember with crystal clarity each time I have had to make that decision and all of the moments leading up to and following it. The days after there is nothing to fill the void and we look to the spots where they would be and listen for their voices.
All losses of loves, two legged and four legged are devastating on their own levels and with their own intensities.
We are here on this boat dock, running it again for the people who normally do it.
Today's Topic:
Pump Out.
Ewwwwww.
We just pumped out a sailboat's holding tank and man oh man. All in all it wasn't bad but I can't help but laugh at the fact that I am still dealing with someone else's poop.
Mame! I have thought about you over and over again ever since reading for the first time about your son and the terrible situation that he has found himself in. I hope that you can tell us that things are continuing to improve and that your blood pressure and hopefully your stress levels are decreasing.
Hugs and good thoughts to you always.
Love you guys and will check in again soon.
lovbob
Have a great day...