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Linda: You have a gift for writing too. It was such a pleasure to read your long, beautiful post. Thanks so much for the update on Bobbie. I hope all goes well with your hubby's heart monitor test. I didn't realize he was having a problem and I will definitely keep you both in my prayers. You have such a beautiful spirit and voice.
Thank you, Judy. I know they're cagey. I'm going to nursery later, but I do not want a battle. Maybe if I direct my energy toward something I want to encourage, instead of wasting it on the negative, it will fade away:) Blessings and hugs to all elders and their wonderful caregivers. xoxoxo
Oh, Christina... that gopher is going to be tough to get rid of. I've heard that some plants deter gophers. I think garlic was one of them (like vampires!), but there's no proof that it works. You could just end up with a gopher with a full belly and bad breath. I think the only tried and true way to get rid of the guy is by trapping and removing him. Even if you try smoking him out, they seal off their tunnels quickly when they detect it. Smart little buggers. Good luck.
Good Feels Like a Monday Morning, Adorable Crew:) Hi kgib, and you fit right in. Poor Mom:( Jen, as your favorite president said regarding inhaling, "Isn't that the point "J" leno What is happening with your play? Remember, a watched pot never boils, so distract yourself with your marvelous writing. Sink deep into and when you look up, things will have changed:) Love you, dear one:) xo Dearest of Hearts, Linda: I said Chinese, as in Commis, not the lovely and elegant Japanese. heehee Love Japanese food, design, gardens. So very Zen. Like you:) Diane, I remember you said that before-- about throwing stuff together when you cook-- and I agree with that. I don't need amounts, just ingredients. Bet you're a very good cook and we could have a throw down one of these days. Later... I have not been keeping up with foreign weather--like on the right coast--so, forgive me, are they having a problem? As if it's too difficult to find out these days. I could program my iPhone for Florida weather...duh. Ok, don't tell me, I should do that anyway instead of St. Louis, Cabo, and Mumbai. We had such fun yesterday! I was greeted by my son telling me he has perfected the skinny margarita. Brought 2 friends, nice young men, and everything was delish. I think we were loud, too. heehee Lots of dark purple and white delphiniums and pink foxgloves blooming, and an unwanted gopher absconding with plants in my front yard! Just as in a cartoon, he is whipping those babies DOWN through the many holes of freshly tilled earth. Yikes. I am not going to react to him, but find out the best way to make him "move on." Anyone have knowledge or proven techniques? My horticulture instructor in college related interesting tales with guns and hoses, but I would rather involve distance-reasoning. "This is mine, get your own yard; I was here first, I do all the work and pay for everything, so just leave." Like that. Could work, a guilt trip. Hope Deefer is feeling better. Hope everyone had an enjoyable long weekend. TTYL, Love, Christina xo
Oh, I forgot to add -- she refuses to get her hair done because she says she feels too nauseated to sit in the stylist's chair for that long. So her hair is long and stringy, as well as greasy because she only cleans it occasionally at the sink (her shower is broken; she turned away the handyman I sent over to fix it), and she looks like an old Indian man. This is a woman who used to never have a hair out of place and went to the beauty shop every Thursday, without fail.
My mom threw her dentures away without telling me and has maybe four discolored real teeth left. It is so disgusting to hear her talk, let alone look at her while she speaks or smokes and have to look at those nasty gray teeth. I told her how to go about getting free dentures at the local university but she refuses to go.
good morning folks . i told bobbie u all were worried about her .. she said to tell you all ... awww tell them thanks and havent had internet since i cant remmy , tell them it was rough and if the wind at landfall was 5 mph more this would have been acat 1 hurricane my boat angel texted me from hosp and told me to move the boat to floating dock so i did , saved my bacon , old dock where you came from was underwater.. he drive s me nuts but he knows boats ! hope he gets better still on dialysis , cat sticking to me like glueboat was bouncing like cork . and u know how heavy she is , i put 20 lines on and she is tied on 2 sides , yeah boat angel , wind blowing 25 knots now and raining sideways , tell em i love em and thanks .
jsomebody - good to hear from you . i sure hope u win the lottery . cricket -- sprinkle some of your magic sprinkles on jsomebody ....
christina - u had me grinnin ! imagin u sucked up some chemicals made in japan for some brats lalala , i just thank god ure still breathing . i am begin careful what i buy nowdays , after hearing stories about pet food is deadly to the pets here . walmart in japan , ow ow ow i be deathly afraid to walk in thier store , fear what would be climbin on me eeek ! love you chistina ! u had me grinning ...when u said pa was a prince and ur mother is a beautiful roses with thorns . lala
cattails , u had me smiling , sorry wrong number , lol !! just a joy to get on a bit ago and smiling and grinnin away . just what i needed ,
seems the nasty colds are attackin us all . elders catching a cold is a nightmare and scary ! once dad got sick realy bad and his chest rattled the whole house and yet the xray shows its clear . what the hell ... all the crap he had in his throat wasnt going into his lungs and yet he drowned in his own fluid , oh gawd i cant talk about this , shit bring me back down again . that was a horrible sight to see my pa my prince suffer like that . i could never understand why a good man who fought in war , fought in the jungle of long lost world full of philipines jumping out and say booo , hide in mud puddles to stay alive , get eaten by a weird bugs and all the pure hell he has gone thru and comes home as lovin as he can be ,. why did my pa have to suffer like that ? fartpant gets to sit in front of tv and make noises .. jsomebody i can help u with fartpant . we ll give him a rollercoaster ride on his wheelchair ... do u live on the hills ? :-) ... now that was mean to say . forgive me ...
thundering and lighting on this end , i didnt realize what bobbie was talking about the other day , it finaly hit me oh ok thats the hurrican she was talkin about gawd where was my head at ! i meowed at bobbie last night , no reply . praying shes all good and her kitty and the boat . the wind here was great yesterday kept us cool in some ways . sis said oh that wind is comin from south theres hurrican out there , thats when it hit me . oh gawd bobbie are u ok ?
slept all weekend , got my hubby worried as hell . slept 13 and half hrs straight , took a 3 hr nap before that , hubby ask me why i sleep so long , i told him i was happy sleeping , good dreams and i see myself smiling and i was happy and it felt good . open one eye thinkin oh hell go back to sleep and i did , happy again , i dont remember what the dreams were about but all i know i was smiling and i was happy . sleeping was the best weekend ever ! didnt sleep good lastnight , woke up at 430 am decided to fix hubby his bfast , today he is going to the heart dr and have a heart moniture set up on him then he s going to work . his heart has been flutterin alot . :( . prayers plz . i have stack of bills here and it just kept growng , i just dont care anymore , been a bookkeeping for 32 yrs and i decided to quit , lol .. you all have a happy tues , love ya !! xoxox
Hi Jen: Remember what Bobbie said about the dirty poop diapers, sheets, etc. Well, when Fart Pants dies, we will each send you a disgusting supply on each holiday you visit the cemetery. Flowers for everyone else and shit for the shithead.
Deef, you need a nice long vacation, I am thinking six years will be about right...
It is crazy BB....I've been here since what June or March two years ago? I can't even recall. Can't imagine NOT having found it...
Been to cemetery for Memorial Day. We visit the dead more than the living. That is Mother's Day, Grandma's birthday, their anniversary, Thanksgiving, Christmas, and today. Have seen other relatives, twice in one year. Very telling. Put flowers on grandmas grave and imagined the funeral for fp...And it made me very very happy....
And here comes comment 23,212 (or so) on this thread! I understand the newcomers' confusion. I'm a newcomer myself. But I have to say, the first time I found this thread, I just about LMAO'd at the number of comments! In fact, I'm LMAOing now.
Diane: What a special day and treat for you and BF. I'm so happy for you and how wonderful to come home to a ready meal. I am thrilled you have a great day to yourself. Love ya, Cattails
Despite Beryl I had a lovely day in Charleston. We started out with a very nice tea at St. Matthews Lutheran Church. The tea is the annual fundraiser for the church's Outreach Ministries which they hold every year during the Spoleto Festival. Afterward we took a carriage tour. All with no rain!! Now that I am home the rain has come down for a little and I hear the skies rumbling up above. Another nice treat when I got home my brother had cooked dinner for us. I definitely have to consider this a very good day :)
Deefer and Christina I hope you feel better soon. I hope Bobbie is safe and dry and will check in soon. Christina, I'll have to see if I can write a recipe for my shrimp Creole and Curried Shrimp since I just throw stuff in the pot until it smells good.
Have a good night dear friends and I'll check in tomorrow. Stay safe everyone!
Thank you, Deef and cattails. xo You feel better, too, Deefer:) xo It's actually nice when things go over one's head. I wish I missed more stuff sometimes. Kind of a happy happy existence; as LindaHeart says, "lalalalalala." The ribs are soaking in coca cola--the only thing I ever buy it for--and I am mixing up the dry rub. Hubby is feeling lousy today, too. I was trying to figure out how I got sick and I started my paranoid mental investigative process, which always ends up with me dying young, tragically, unexpectedly. It's just imagination, not what I really think! Now you will know how really weird I am, if you didn't already know. This is what I came up with: last week we were going to have a picnic with future SIL, his parents and us as local regional park. I bought a cheap beach ball at Target along with some other toys in the $ bins . I thought it would be fun to bat around and safe for the little guy. When we got to the park, I started to blow it up--my lung capacity is huge as a vocalist. It didn't stay full--CHEAP-- so I blew it up a few more times. Later on in the week, when my lungs started to hurt, I got to thinking: beach ball, blowing it up, maybe some of the air mixed with the CHEAP Chinese-(no offense, anyone) chemically infused plastic--may even intentional for stupid Americans who are merchandise happy and buy every little gadget for their spoiled brat kids-- and now, I have contracted an exotic but lethal lung disease that no one can find the cure for. See? haha Really, I am only dramatic in my mind and in real life I would never go so far. I am hoping the Cipro does the trick. I did not cough at all last night as I did the night before, so moving on. I will live. Hi to Jen, Bobbie, Kuli and all others who are laying low. Remember our Fallen Heroes today and Give Thanks on this Memorial Day:) Love you all bunches, Christina xo
Ild, welcome to the asylum! The skunk story is priceless. Did your aunt think she was letting the cat in? How did you ever get the house cleaned up? Christina, Mom and I are both sick here with a nasty cold. Hope you feel better soon. Austin, Your craft ladies sound wonderful! It's so nice that you make all those shawls for the NH's. I crochet too. And you are right about it being faster than knitting. I have been doing a lot of lace knitting with sock and fine yarns. It takes a long time to finish a piece, but the pieces are so beautiful when done. I had never knit from a chart before, but now that I do, it is so much easier to read a complicated pattern by chart than sentences! Jen, How are you doing? Need I ask? Off to get Mom up and showered. Taking her to the ER after all. She had another bad night and needs to get a stronger med for UTI. The cold is nice and loose and not in her chest, but she is loonier than a loon from the UTI. Her maintenance antibiotic took the edge off, but didn't help enough. As for me, I'm coughing up all kinds of gross stuff that is making me gag. Maybe the ER is where I should be too! Hope you all have a good day!
Well, as long as you keep your sense of humor, you know you are holding your own. I truly feel the same. I have been helping my great aunt for about a year. The most recent episode was when Adult Protective Services called me up to tell me my great aunt had a skunk in her house and was spraying everywhere! LOL I went to class and every week, student would ask me what was the next saga with my great aunt! All I can do is laugh because if I really think about all the things that have happened, I would curl up in the fetal position and never get out of bed! Mind you . . . I am two courses away from completing my Masters in Gerontology, so I'm trained in this field! God Bless all those who take care of family members and are trying to take one day at a time! Keep laughing . . . even if they think you are slipping away into madness! LOL
New posters: look at the thread date of origin; look at the number of frickin posts! Over 23 THOUSAND!!! People! Please! Learn about Context! Get beyond the end of your nose! Why am I bothering? Ridiculous. They think their post comes after the hair in the toothbrush post. I give up. Carry on, Caregivers. Love reading your gross descriptions of bodily functions. Reading about showers and trying to get things done while elders fuss and think the world revolves around their dying brings back such menories. I didn't say what kind of memories. Close to insane and aggravating. My Mom was never one to care about others or their feelings, not like Linda's Dad. He is a Prince and a blessing. A towering majestic oak in the landscape. Mother is more a beautiful rose with too many thorns: pretty but able to draw blood and cause pain. I'm sick right now with a bronchial infection. Cricket, you are so open and honest. That could not offend anyone--could it? Haha! Thanks for your friendship:) xo Diane, did you post your Shrimp Creole on Favorite Recipes that Cricket started last year? Also, please post the curry shrimp, too. I would appreciate it:) TY Tomorrow we are grilling and roasting. Kids are coming over and my son is bringing 2 friends, one is a chef. Oh boy. I'm fixing ribs. Kids are all bringing something. My son makes great Skinny Margaritas. I hope you all have a blessed Memorial Day. Love you, Christina xo
By the way, my dad has had war movies going all day and hubby has Nascar. Gag me will a frickin fork lift. One funny thing, I was in the kitchen making dinner and heard from my dad's bedroom...(John Wayne voice I thing)..."Ok, everybody in the swamp and keep moving." I just cracked up. Sounds like our lives. Hahahahha, breath, hahahaha. Too funny.
Do you sometimes feel that we just get a weird post out of the blue? Hello, no, I think you have the wrong number.
Deef, glad you are feeling better. If my dad ever does than catatonic, stick your legs out straight number, he's out of here. Don't know how you do it. Cattails.
While I understand your initial reaction of disgust, has your mom been diagnosed with any cognitive issues? If not, it would be a good idea to speak with her doctor and have a neurological evaluation done. If she has been diagnosed with dementia or alzheimers, I would contact one of the organizations than can provide you with appropriate strategies to handle situations like this. It might be a good idea to hide her hygenic items (i.e., toothbrush, hairbrush, etc.) and only take them out when she is supervised. Best of luck to you.
Deefer I admire knitters -since I started crocheting I have not gone back to knitting-we are starting our Christmas project at our craft group a different NH this time -last year we made over 300 shawls for one NH near us -it was the one my friend Winnie was in and it was so nice to see the ladies wearing them when I went to see her. I will have lots of time to make shawls when I go on vac. and I am going with my daughter so can take loads of yarn which I can not when going by bus-if anyone goes to the Kuztown Fair look me up my sister is a crafter known as the wheat women. Our craft group has the most amazing talented women and they are all so willing to teach others.
My cold is better after spending much of the last 2 days in bed. So glad merry was here to help with mom. Her cold still sounds nasty, but her lungs are clear and her cough is loose. her nose is oozing disgusting stuff too. But the worst thing is another UTI. So I have doubled up her maintenance antibiotic and give her 2 in the AM and PM. She was more coherent tonight. No fever, but night sweats and up and jabbering most of last night, so I was too. Hoping for a much better day tomorrow with her. If not, doctor on Tuesday, after I go for my 6 month appt. Cricket, I noticed my name in your apology. Just to let you know, I was not in the least offended by your comments!!! An opinion is simply that, an opinion and the only time I would take offense is if someone directly attacked another person with their opinion. Everyone's comments are valued here. The fact that we all feel differently about our situations is what makes this thread and site so valuable to us all! By the way, I'll be 61 in August, and I sure know what feeling like 100 is!!! I often wonder if I will get to enjoy my "old age" after Mom is gone. The good news is I can collect SS next year. That is if there is any $$ left to collect!!! I like to think of myself as a young 60, but I'm sure life will catch up to me someday. Cattails, Mom has what we call "sh!t fits". She has PD so her body functions do not work too well anymore. When she needs to have a BM, she gets almost catatonic. She hyperventilates, throws her head back, sticks her legs out straight in front of her, and won't or can't communicate to us that she has to go. So we find many surprises when we toilet her. Fiber powder is my favorite friend! Diane, look up Wellnesbriefs (one word). Find their website for space diapers. They are a lifesaver. I but the cheap Walmart pullups and line them with the long maximum absorbent pads. We usually just have to change the pad and not the pullups. Put the pad up high in the back to catch poop, too! I also line the Wellnessbriefs at night for added protection. Now I just use 1 diaper /night and the bed stays dry. They don't do pullups, but that's okay! They save me lots of $$ for sure. Mom used to be afraid of her own shadow when she first started all this PD and dementia. Now she is too far gone to even think that way, but I feel your pain for sure! As for your sister and cleaning, tell her to get her mop and do it herself!!! I have 2 apartments to keep clean. Mom's and mine. Neither are very clean. I'd rather knit when I have a few moments to myself! Linda, you are so right! When they can still communicate with you, it makes it a lot easier to care for them. Severe alz./dementia is the hardest. merry worked in alz. units for 15 years and highly recommends home care if and when possible. I'm just lucky to have her in my corner! Austin, I just finished another knitted shawl and used the "sewn bind-off "method. It took forever!!!! But it looks great. Going to work on a cotton shrug for my daughter next. knitting is a lifeline for me for sure! I did manage to get 4 flower pots ready and took them to the cemeteries this morning. been doing it with mom for 30 years, but I was alone this year. Shame on the rest of my family! Bobbie, Stay safe!
Another hour and half dinner with mom, but she ate a very good meal. She likes shrimp so she ate a big portion of shrimp creole with rice. She also had fresh sauteed swiss chard from the garden and fresh green beans. I seemed to have pulled a muscle in my low back and its twinging with pain. Mom gets harder and harder to pull up when she is having her dying spells. I had to laugh this afternoon. She got mad at me and amazingly she was able to get out of the recliner all by herself. Doesn't that sound like it's all mind over matter why she can and can't get up by herself? I know everything you read says they have no control, but I really think she knows how to play me too. I was watching the National Memorial Day Concert at the Capitol but it looks like weather has cut the performance short. That's too bad, but I know they don't want people to be in harms way either.
I'm going to relax for a bit before mom starts whining that she needs to go to bed. Have a good evening everyone. Everyone in Beryls way, stay safe.
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Jen, as your favorite president said regarding inhaling, "Isn't that the point "J" leno
What is happening with your play? Remember, a watched pot never boils, so distract yourself with your marvelous writing. Sink deep into and when you look up, things will have changed:) Love you, dear one:) xo
Dearest of Hearts, Linda: I said Chinese, as in Commis, not the lovely and elegant Japanese. heehee Love Japanese food, design, gardens. So very Zen. Like you:)
Diane, I remember you said that before-- about throwing stuff together when you cook-- and I agree with that. I don't need amounts, just ingredients. Bet you're a very good cook and we could have a throw down one of these days. Later...
I have not been keeping up with foreign weather--like on the right coast--so, forgive me, are they having a problem? As if it's too difficult to find out these days. I could program my iPhone for Florida weather...duh. Ok, don't tell me, I should do that anyway instead of St. Louis, Cabo, and Mumbai.
We had such fun yesterday! I was greeted by my son telling me he has perfected the skinny margarita. Brought 2 friends, nice young men, and everything was delish. I think we were loud, too. heehee
Lots of dark purple and white delphiniums and pink foxgloves blooming, and an unwanted gopher absconding with plants in my front yard! Just as in a cartoon, he is whipping those babies DOWN through the many holes of freshly tilled earth. Yikes. I am not going to react to him, but find out the best way to make him "move on." Anyone have knowledge or proven techniques? My horticulture instructor in college related interesting tales with guns and hoses, but I would rather involve distance-reasoning. "This is mine, get your own yard; I was here first, I do all the work and pay for everything, so just leave." Like that. Could work, a guilt trip.
Hope Deefer is feeling better. Hope everyone had an enjoyable long weekend.
TTYL, Love, Christina xo
she said to tell you all ...
awww tell them thanks and havent had internet since i cant remmy , tell them it was rough and if the wind at landfall was 5 mph more this would have been acat 1 hurricane my boat angel texted me from hosp and told me to move the boat to floating dock so i did , saved my bacon , old dock where you came from was underwater.. he drive s me nuts but he knows boats ! hope he gets better still on dialysis , cat sticking to me like glueboat was bouncing like cork . and u know how heavy she is , i put 20 lines on and she is tied on 2 sides , yeah boat angel , wind blowing 25 knots now and raining sideways , tell em i love em and thanks .
prayers for her and kitty and boat angel .. xoxox
christina - u had me grinnin ! imagin u sucked up some chemicals made in japan for some brats lalala , i just thank god ure still breathing . i am begin careful what i buy nowdays , after hearing stories about pet food is deadly to the pets here . walmart in japan , ow ow ow i be deathly afraid to walk in thier store , fear what would be climbin on me eeek ! love you chistina ! u had me grinning ...when u said pa was a prince and ur mother is a beautiful roses with thorns . lala
cattails , u had me smiling , sorry wrong number , lol !!
just a joy to get on a bit ago and smiling and grinnin away . just what i needed ,
seems the nasty colds are attackin us all . elders catching a cold is a nightmare and scary ! once dad got sick realy bad and his chest rattled the whole house and yet the xray shows its clear . what the hell ... all the crap he had in his throat wasnt going into his lungs and yet he drowned in his own fluid , oh gawd i cant talk about this , shit bring me back down again . that was a horrible sight to see my pa my prince suffer like that . i could never understand why a good man who fought in war , fought in the jungle of long lost world full of philipines jumping out and say booo , hide in mud puddles to stay alive , get eaten by a weird bugs and all the pure hell he has gone thru and comes home as lovin as he can be ,. why did my pa have to suffer like that ? fartpant gets to sit in front of tv and make noises .. jsomebody i can help u with fartpant . we ll give him a rollercoaster ride on his wheelchair ... do u live on the hills ? :-) ...
now that was mean to say . forgive me ...
thundering and lighting on this end , i didnt realize what bobbie was talking about the other day , it finaly hit me oh ok thats the hurrican she was talkin about gawd where was my head at ! i meowed at bobbie last night , no reply . praying shes all good and her kitty and the boat .
the wind here was great yesterday kept us cool in some ways . sis said oh that wind is comin from south theres hurrican out there , thats when it hit me . oh gawd bobbie are u ok ?
slept all weekend , got my hubby worried as hell . slept 13 and half hrs straight , took a 3 hr nap before that , hubby ask me why i sleep so long , i told him i was happy sleeping , good dreams and i see myself smiling and i was happy and it felt good . open one eye thinkin oh hell go back to sleep and i did , happy again , i dont remember what the dreams were about but all i know i was smiling and i was happy . sleeping was the best weekend ever !
didnt sleep good lastnight , woke up at 430 am decided to fix hubby his bfast , today he is going to the heart dr and have a heart moniture set up on him then he s going to work . his heart has been flutterin alot . :( . prayers plz .
i have stack of bills here and it just kept growng , i just dont care anymore , been a bookkeeping for 32 yrs and i decided to quit , lol ..
you all have a happy tues , love ya !! xoxox
OK here, NOT!
Hope bobbie is safe, and doing well.
Deef, you need a nice long vacation, I am thinking six years will be about right...
It is crazy BB....I've been here since what June or March two years ago? I can't even recall. Can't imagine NOT having found it...
Been to cemetery for Memorial Day. We visit the dead more than the living. That is Mother's Day, Grandma's birthday, their anniversary, Thanksgiving, Christmas, and today. Have seen other relatives, twice in one year. Very telling. Put flowers on grandmas grave and imagined the funeral for fp...And it made me very very happy....
Despite Beryl I had a lovely day in Charleston. We started out with a very nice tea at St. Matthews Lutheran Church. The tea is the annual fundraiser for the church's Outreach Ministries which they hold every year during the Spoleto Festival. Afterward we took a carriage tour. All with no rain!! Now that I am home the rain has come down for a little and I hear the skies rumbling up above. Another nice treat when I got home my brother had cooked dinner for us. I definitely have to consider this a very good day :)
Deefer and Christina I hope you feel better soon. I hope Bobbie is safe and dry and will check in soon. Christina, I'll have to see if I can write a recipe for my shrimp Creole and Curried Shrimp since I just throw stuff in the pot until it smells good.
Have a good night dear friends and I'll check in tomorrow. Stay safe everyone!
Love ya,
Diane
It's actually nice when things go over one's head. I wish I missed more stuff sometimes. Kind of a happy happy existence; as LindaHeart says, "lalalalalala."
The ribs are soaking in coca cola--the only thing I ever buy it for--and I am mixing up the dry rub.
Hubby is feeling lousy today, too. I was trying to figure out how I got sick and I started my paranoid mental investigative process, which always ends up with me dying young, tragically, unexpectedly. It's just imagination, not what I really think!
Now you will know how really weird I am, if you didn't already know.
This is what I came up with: last week we were going to have a picnic with future SIL, his parents and us as local regional park. I bought a cheap beach ball at Target along with some other toys in the $ bins . I thought it would be fun to bat around and safe for the little guy. When we got to the park, I started to blow it up--my lung capacity is huge as a vocalist. It didn't stay full--CHEAP-- so I blew it up a few more times. Later on in the week, when my lungs started to hurt, I got to thinking: beach ball, blowing it up, maybe some of the air mixed with the CHEAP Chinese-(no offense, anyone) chemically infused plastic--may even intentional for stupid Americans who are merchandise happy and buy every little gadget for their spoiled brat kids-- and now, I have contracted an exotic but lethal lung disease that no one can find the cure for. See? haha Really, I am only dramatic in my mind and in real life I would never go so far. I am hoping the Cipro does the trick. I did not cough at all last night as I did the night before, so moving on. I will live.
Hi to Jen, Bobbie, Kuli and all others who are laying low.
Remember our Fallen Heroes today and Give Thanks on this Memorial Day:)
Love you all bunches,
Christina xo
I'm following the storm and saying prayers for Bobbie.
Haven't heard from Meanwhile for sometime. Hope she is ok too.
Check in asap to let us know you are okay. xoxo
Christina, Mom and I are both sick here with a nasty cold. Hope you feel better soon.
Austin, Your craft ladies sound wonderful! It's so nice that you make all those shawls for the NH's. I crochet too. And you are right about it being faster than knitting. I have been doing a lot of lace knitting with sock and fine yarns. It takes a long time to finish a piece, but the pieces are so beautiful when done. I had never knit from a chart before, but now that I do, it is so much easier to read a complicated pattern by chart than sentences!
Jen, How are you doing? Need I ask?
Off to get Mom up and showered. Taking her to the ER after all. She had another bad night and needs to get a stronger med for UTI. The cold is nice and loose and not in her chest, but she is loonier than a loon from the UTI. Her maintenance antibiotic took the edge off, but didn't help enough. As for me, I'm coughing up all kinds of gross stuff that is making me gag. Maybe the ER is where I should be too!
Hope you all have a good day!
Over 23 THOUSAND!!! People! Please! Learn about Context! Get beyond the end of your nose!
Why am I bothering? Ridiculous. They think their post comes after the hair in the toothbrush post. I give up.
Carry on, Caregivers. Love reading your gross descriptions of bodily functions. Reading about showers and trying to get things done while elders fuss and think the world revolves around their dying brings back such menories. I didn't say what kind of memories. Close to insane and aggravating. My Mom was never one to care about others or their feelings, not like Linda's Dad. He is a Prince and a blessing. A towering majestic oak in the landscape. Mother is more a beautiful rose with too many thorns: pretty but able to draw blood and cause pain.
I'm sick right now with a bronchial infection. Cricket, you are so open and honest. That could not offend anyone--could it? Haha! Thanks for your friendship:) xo
Diane, did you post your Shrimp Creole on Favorite Recipes that Cricket started last year? Also, please post the curry shrimp, too. I would appreciate it:) TY
Tomorrow we are grilling and roasting. Kids are coming over and my son is bringing 2 friends, one is a chef. Oh boy. I'm fixing ribs. Kids are all bringing something. My son makes great Skinny Margaritas.
I hope you all have a blessed Memorial Day. Love you, Christina xo
Sorry guys but I couldn't resist. lol I guess it was a twilight moment going on there.
Deef I'm glad you weren't offended. Sorry to hear about your Mom's UTI and everything else. Are you feeling any better?
Well I'm off to bed... nighty night all.
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Deef, glad you are feeling better. If my dad ever does than catatonic, stick your legs out straight number, he's out of here. Don't know how you do it. Cattails.
Cricket, I noticed my name in your apology. Just to let you know, I was not in the least offended by your comments!!! An opinion is simply that, an opinion and the only time I would take offense is if someone directly attacked another person with their opinion. Everyone's comments are valued here. The fact that we all feel differently about our situations is what makes this thread and site so valuable to us all!
By the way, I'll be 61 in August, and I sure know what feeling like 100 is!!! I often wonder if I will get to enjoy my "old age" after Mom is gone. The good news is I can collect SS next year. That is if there is any $$ left to collect!!! I like to think of myself as a young 60, but I'm sure life will catch up to me someday.
Cattails, Mom has what we call "sh!t fits". She has PD so her body functions do not work too well anymore. When she needs to have a BM, she gets almost catatonic. She hyperventilates, throws her head back, sticks her legs out straight in front of her, and won't or can't communicate to us that she has to go. So we find many surprises when we toilet her. Fiber powder is my favorite friend!
Diane, look up Wellnesbriefs (one word). Find their website for space diapers. They are a lifesaver. I but the cheap Walmart pullups and line them with the long maximum absorbent pads. We usually just have to change the pad and not the pullups. Put the pad up high in the back to catch poop, too! I also line the Wellnessbriefs at night for added protection. Now I just use 1 diaper /night and the bed stays dry. They don't do pullups, but that's okay! They save me lots of $$ for sure. Mom used to be afraid of her own shadow when she first started all this PD and dementia. Now she is too far gone to even think that way, but I feel your pain for sure! As for your sister and cleaning, tell her to get her mop and do it herself!!! I have 2 apartments to keep clean. Mom's and mine. Neither are very clean. I'd rather knit when I have a few moments to myself!
Linda, you are so right! When they can still communicate with you, it makes it a lot easier to care for them. Severe alz./dementia is the hardest. merry worked in alz. units for 15 years and highly recommends home care if and when possible. I'm just lucky to have her in my corner!
Austin, I just finished another knitted shawl and used the "sewn bind-off "method. It took forever!!!! But it looks great. Going to work on a cotton shrug for my daughter next. knitting is a lifeline for me for sure!
I did manage to get 4 flower pots ready and took them to the cemeteries this morning. been doing it with mom for 30 years, but I was alone this year. Shame on the rest of my family!
Bobbie, Stay safe!
I was watching the National Memorial Day Concert at the Capitol but it looks like weather has cut the performance short. That's too bad, but I know they don't want people to be in harms way either.
I'm going to relax for a bit before mom starts whining that she needs to go to bed. Have a good evening everyone. Everyone in Beryls way, stay safe.
Love ya,
Diane