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I love New Years. I go to bed early, so it isn't about the fireworks, but it's the week I clean out the old (I am running out of things to put on the curb now I have so drastically downsized). It's a fun week for me. As to resolutions: I do them half-heartedly and usually fail. Here are mine.1. Be more kind to N. My partner's a political junkie, and comes to me with story after story. I HATE politics and avoid them like a plague, so I stop him short almost every time; I beg, I plead. And still I cannot stop him. Instead I will endeavor to just listen more this year. He pleads "I have no one ELSE to TELL" (which is untrue: He tells his oldest daughter, then his youngest, then his grandson and then his best friends at a weekly lunch. Still. I must be more kind.)2. Be more kind in general. I am abrupt. I call it honest. But one member here suggested that I am like the abusing husband who claims "I did it for her own good"; and she had a REAL POINT there.3. Proofread my posts. I won't. And whether it's age or inability, re-reading posts has proven an embarrassment. This is the single resolution I am CERTAIN to fail.4. Try to let go of worry. Ha. Yeah. THAT'S likely to happen.

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1. Downsize more of my stuff to move
2. get a job in education that is not teaching
3. Quit overthinking and worrying so much
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Thanks Alva; the reminder is helpful. I think I’ve actually been mourning for quite some time but I know that when it is finally quiet and calm here, the sadness will be magnified.

My resolution is to somehow learn to stop agonizing over my choices and to make peace with why I made them. Was my timing right? Is the facility right? Did I fail him in his time of need? What’s wrong with me that I gave up so easily? I know I did not cause my husband’s disease but I am ashamed that my inner Super-woman seems to have taken a powder when I really need her.
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My resolution is to not make any resolutions and to just live one day at a time, doing my best at everything. Walking, eating right, being kind, giving back, etc.
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Pea,
You are allowed to mourn it.
You just aren't allowed to take the responsibility for what he has, because you didn't cause and can't fix it.
It's worth grieving over. If this isn't, then nothing is. Allow yourself to feel the sadness without making the disease somehow your fault.
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To get through my husband’s placement in the first week or two, then to get through the rest of the year without beating myself up about it.
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Can any of us even remember are resolution from last year? 😆 I have no clue what mine was.

It's been a good year though in a lot of ways, much of it is because of you guys, just thinking how much I've grown and changed this year, Friends I've broken free of ext.....
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To NOT make resolutions and set myself up to fail .
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My biggest resolution which I intend to keep is to live in the moment. Less of past and regrets and not worry too much about future.
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Alvadeer, I just want to say I have great respect for you and all the knowledge you bring here. 🥰

With that being said, my first resolution is less drama, and to stay away from other people drama as best I can, including social media drama. I want as much peace in my life as possible.
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I'm going to get back to more dutifully doing my Silver Sneakers online Zoom exercise classes. It's good for weight control, balance, flexibility, cardio, and is pretty rewarding overall. I'm going to try to keep up contact with friends better. Try to get outdoors to walk in the sunshine even though it's cold. Get a huge box of photos scanned so my kids won't have to do it after I'm gone.
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I'm either going to try to cut back on junk food carbs and sugar or I'm going to say screw it and go all in.
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