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I told her this morning if she hadn't been such a hypochondriac all of her life, people would take her more seriously. And she needs to tell the Drs and nurses what she tells me. I have always told her that. That and I am not a nurse or a dr.
Lostinthemix, both my Mom and I were hypochondriacs, and so is my sig other and his grown daughter. Any time one watches TV there is another darn commercial for pills or shots for this or that, thus the psychosomatic urge creeps in.
This isn't an easy condition to put a stop. One has to stop on their own. I finally did but it was because my elderly parents were going to the doctors way too much, I just didn't want to see another waiting room :P I've taken the "whatever" approach when it comes to my own doctors and care.
I keep telling my sig other that his once in a blue moon headache is not a brain tumor... [sigh]
Mother has been a hypochondriac all her life. I thought it was normal. I don't think she has many internal organs left...oh wait, her gallbladder and we have all sworn to each other we won't tell her she hasn't has had it out.
My WHOLE ENTIRE LIFE was spent in servitude to a woman who was too sick to get out of bed 80% of the time. Now she is truly incapacitated, she is regretting all those years lying in bed and missing out on anything.
Dad tried and tried to get her some psych. help but she refused every time. It just is what it is.
More surgeries that I can count. Weekly trips to the ER for shots for migraines, sometimes up to 4xs a week. Always had an ACE bandage or neck collar on, or crutches or a cane....her slide into her 80's was barely noticeable.
In truth, she's NEVER had anything serious, except for meningitis which was 55 years ago.
It makes the 'not sick' person seem uncaring. We all just got used to her malingering and ignored her. So sad.
I meant no disrespect but when she tells me she's dizzy, shaky, but can't remember she needs to use her walker and doesn't pass this info along to the professionals, it is a little frustrating, like I am making the whole thing up. Today she told me she couldn't see and that caused her not to be able to breathe? And her cat was affected by it also. Scratching my head all the time.
Yes she has dementia. She was diagnosed years ago with Alzheimers but it seems it is in full swing now and I am having trouble with it all. No help from her other kids and very little too none from the medical "professionals".
I'm so sorry, I know how hard it is. I always felt like my mother was crying wolf and then god forbid one day she really does need me and I brush her off. Its very hard to manage.
My father was the opposite. Rarely saw the doctor and when he did, he got the worst one in the world!
I know its hard to find the right balance. Have you considered talking to a social worker or family therapist? I've lost all patience with my mother. Now when she wants to tell me something I say now what? I know its not right and there must be another way. But I'm like you a lot and there is hardly anyone else around who will even step in and support me.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
C.
APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
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If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
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This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
This isn't an easy condition to put a stop. One has to stop on their own. I finally did but it was because my elderly parents were going to the doctors way too much, I just didn't want to see another waiting room :P I've taken the "whatever" approach when it comes to my own doctors and care.
I keep telling my sig other that his once in a blue moon headache is not a brain tumor... [sigh]
My WHOLE ENTIRE LIFE was spent in servitude to a woman who was too sick to get out of bed 80% of the time. Now she is truly incapacitated, she is regretting all those years lying in bed and missing out on anything.
Dad tried and tried to get her some psych. help but she refused every time. It just is what it is.
More surgeries that I can count. Weekly trips to the ER for shots for migraines, sometimes up to 4xs a week. Always had an ACE bandage or neck collar on, or crutches or a cane....her slide into her 80's was barely noticeable.
In truth, she's NEVER had anything serious, except for meningitis which was 55 years ago.
It makes the 'not sick' person seem uncaring. We all just got used to her malingering and ignored her. So sad.
I'm so sorry, I know how hard it is. I always felt like my mother was crying wolf and then god forbid one day she really does need me and I brush her off. Its very hard to manage.
My father was the opposite. Rarely saw the doctor and when he did, he got the worst one in the world!
I know its hard to find the right balance. Have you considered talking to a social worker or family therapist? I've lost all patience with my mother. Now when she wants to tell me something I say now what? I know its not right and there must be another way. But I'm like you a lot and there is hardly anyone else around who will even step in and support me.
I hope you can get some respite. Thinking of you.