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I am caregiver for my bedridden husband. I understand how you feel. I would not go so far as to say I have no love for him, but I am tired and weary and sore from shifting around his 300+ pound bulk to wash and change him every day.
We have to do something, don’t we? We don’t qualify for Medicaid either. We can’t pay our bills but make too much for much help. So what do we do? Well, if you have your own health insurance, it will probably pay for therapy. Go. Also, see if her health insurance will pay for home health care a certain number of times a week. We had a bath aid last year and it helped a bit. At least he knew what to do and how to do it when I mostly didn’t. Get on the Internet and research people in your situation and see if there’s help out there. If you’re affiliated with a church, many have volunteer groups who will come out and sit with your loved one so you could at least escape for an hour or so.
Also, some posters on this site have mentioned a “Miller Trust” where you can put extra funds in an account so she will qualify for Medicaid. We can’t do this because we need every cent to pay our bills. Then you may be able to check out facilities for her. You’d need the guidance of an Elder Law Attorney for this.
Above all, remember that you dont have to be Superwoman. This caregiving thing is extremely difficult. We give up our lives, our hobbies and interests and a lot of times our personal happiness to do this. And there isn’t much reward if any. Take it one day at a time. Some days are easier and some days you scream into your pillow at night in frustration and anger.
Please try to find help for yourself. And be good to yourself. It’s ok not to be perfect. Really.
Yes, Webbsue: We have the same problem with our 86 year old mother who suffers from schizophrenia. We do not have the financial means to send her to a care facility, and we must put up with her psychotic behavior, babbles and rants. We are just enduring this with no hope in sight.
Ahmijoy, you really need to talk to a medicaid lawyer. Medicaid for couples is vastly different from medicaid for singles. If one spouse will not be on medicaid, the limits are different since the non-medicaid spouse needs money to live on. In my experience, social workers don't know these things. I have never heard a social worker bring up a miller trust for example. I've talked to many and have overheard many during many frequent trips to the hospital for my relatives.
Emely57, I feel your pain. Literally. Grandma just won't shut up. Somehow she manages to babble on, mainly describing in great detail every perceived wrong that anyone has ever done her from childhood on up. During the day it's tolerable. At night, I'm in the room right next to hers and she's quite loud. The lack of sleep is killing me. Literally.
My Dad isn't the same person anymore either. Pretty sure he just sees us as the help, and more or less checked out. I love and miss the man he was, I am numb to the creature he has become.
Thank you for the advice on Medicaid. I appreciate it. I think even on his own, Hubby would not qualify for Medicaid based on his income. What I would be left as the Community Spouse plus my income would not be enough to pay our bills, either. What we really, truly need help with, to be honest, are his incontinence supplies. Diapers and pads are so expensive! When it becomes necessary I think we will be seeking out an Elder Law Attorney. Thanks again!
Please see a social worker or attorney familiar with Medicaid for your mom - there should be a way to have her placed in a nursing home with Medicaid paying for it.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
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If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
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This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
We have to do something, don’t we? We don’t qualify for Medicaid either. We can’t pay our bills but make too much for much help. So what do we do? Well, if you have your own health insurance, it will probably pay for therapy. Go. Also, see if her health insurance will pay for home health care a certain number of times a week. We had a bath aid last year and it helped a bit. At least he knew what to do and how to do it when I mostly didn’t. Get on the Internet and research people in your situation and see if there’s help out there. If you’re affiliated with a church, many have volunteer groups who will come out and sit with your loved one so you could at least escape for an hour or so.
Also, some posters on this site have mentioned a “Miller Trust” where you can put extra funds in an account so she will qualify for Medicaid. We can’t do this because we need every cent to pay our bills. Then you may be able to check out facilities for her. You’d need the guidance of an Elder Law Attorney for this.
Above all, remember that you dont have to be Superwoman. This caregiving thing is extremely difficult. We give up our lives, our hobbies and interests and a lot of times our personal happiness to do this. And there isn’t much reward if any. Take it one day at a time. Some days are easier and some days you scream into your pillow at night in frustration and anger.
Please try to find help for yourself. And be good to yourself. It’s ok not to be perfect. Really.