Are you sure you want to exit? Your progress will be lost.
Who are you caring for?
Which best describes their mobility?
How well are they maintaining their hygiene?
How are they managing their medications?
Does their living environment pose any safety concerns?
Fall risks, spoiled food, or other threats to wellbeing
Are they experiencing any memory loss?
Which best describes your loved one's social life?
Acknowledgment of Disclosures and Authorization
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington. Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services. APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid. We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour. APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment. You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints. Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights. APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.I agree that: A.I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information"). B.APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink. C.APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site. D.If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records. E.This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year. F.You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
✔
I acknowledge and authorize
✔
I consent to the collection of my consumer health data.*
✔
I consent to the sharing of my consumer health data with qualified home care agencies.*
*If I am consenting on behalf of someone else, I have the proper authorization to do so. By clicking Get My Results, you agree to our Privacy Policy. You also consent to receive calls and texts, which may be autodialed, from us and our customer communities. Your consent is not a condition to using our service. Please visit our Terms of Use. for information about our privacy practices.
Mostly Independent
Your loved one may not require home care or assisted living services at this time. However, continue to monitor their condition for changes and consider occasional in-home care services for help as needed.
Remember, this assessment is not a substitute for professional advice.
Share a few details and we will match you to trusted home care in your area:
My daughter will stay with her the entire time, and I have other family members for backup. I worry about putting them through a very tough time while I'm gone.
Hi Jb. Please take the time off. There is just no other way to say it. You need respite, especially with all the demands that caring for a LO with dementia brings. She will be in good hands with your daughter and other family members. They will work it out, and I am thankful that she/they have stepped up to care for your wife as you get recharged and revitalized. God bless you and praying for your peace as you take a weekend for yourself.
If she has a tough time she will get over it. You want a weekend. Two days. It's not like you're planning on taking off for a year or something.
I did homecare (mostly for the elderly) for 25 years. something like 50% of caregivers die before the person they are caregiver to.
I want you to think of how hard it will be for your wife if (God forbid) something happens to you. Caregivers who are in it 24/7 day after day and never get a break, neglect their own health (both physical and mental) and needs. What ends up happening is they get sick and they die. Then the person they took care of who had to have them by their side 24/7 goes into a care facility.
It's wonderful and beautiful that you have such a positive attitude towards being a dementia caregiver. Please, let me tell you something with the greatest of respect and admiration for you. What I say comes from 25 years of caregiving experience with not just clients, but also client families.
You're doing your wife a disservice by staying by her day and night and allowing a 'shadowing' habit to form. She has to get used to time being away from you. Put her in adult day care a couple of days a week. Get in-home caregivers to stay with her, then you leave. I have told this to countless husbands and wives of clients over the year. When the caregiver shows up, you leave. Go to a movie. Go shopping. Visit a friend. Go get a drink somewhere. Yes, it will be hard on the client with dementia for a while. They will cry and get hysterical and carry on. Leaving for periods of time is still what's best for everybody. Your wife will get used to it and you will get the respite breaks from her that you need to stay healthy and remain a good caregiver.
You're so considerate. Your family members are too. They've offered to help, and you should have no hesitation in accepting it. It's only two days!
Your wife will adjust, and her daughter is there so they can have a nice visit. It might actually be a relief to wife, so think about it as her vacation from you as well.
Consider that perhaps this whole caregiving thing has done a number on your brain and that your mental health is as important as everyone else's. My friend was always quoting the Talmud: You must throw a life preserver to others, but you don't have to go down with their ship. (Or something like that.)
Take well deserved time off to charge your batteries. A definite Must do. Listen to the advice given here. You are not doing anyone justice if you don't. Never feel quilts. Yes, look into adult daycare. It will help her to be with other people and make new friends! Bless you!
Your profile states that you are retired and have been married for 59 years.
You deserve to be able to have a break and do something nice for yourself.
Your family will be able to handle the situation at home. Please take care of yourself and a few days off to relax and enjoy your retirement. You’ve earned it!
I now take a full week off a few times a year and my brother visits more often {she is in a dementia assisted living}..…Mom forgets she has not seen me..I get a rest and she gets more son time! I also thought I was the most important visitor….take your weekend and enjoy.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
A.
I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
B.
APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
C.
APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
D.
If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
E.
This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
F.
You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
I did homecare (mostly for the elderly) for 25 years. something like 50% of caregivers die before the person they are caregiver to.
I want you to think of how hard it will be for your wife if (God forbid) something happens to you. Caregivers who are in it 24/7 day after day and never get a break, neglect their own health (both physical and mental) and needs. What ends up happening is they get sick and they die. Then the person they took care of who had to have them by their side 24/7 goes into a care facility.
It's wonderful and beautiful that you have such a positive attitude towards being a dementia caregiver.
Please, let me tell you something with the greatest of respect and admiration for you. What I say comes from 25 years of caregiving experience with not just clients, but also client families.
You're doing your wife a disservice by staying by her day and night and allowing a 'shadowing' habit to form. She has to get used to time being away from you.
Put her in adult day care a couple of days a week. Get in-home caregivers to stay with her, then you leave. I have told this to countless husbands and wives of clients over the year. When the caregiver shows up, you leave. Go to a movie. Go shopping. Visit a friend. Go get a drink somewhere.
Yes, it will be hard on the client with dementia for a while. They will cry and get hysterical and carry on. Leaving for periods of time is still what's best for everybody.
Your wife will get used to it and you will get the respite breaks from her that you need to stay healthy and remain a good caregiver.
Your wife will adjust, and her daughter is there so they can have a nice visit. It might actually be a relief to wife, so think about it as her vacation from you as well.
Consider that perhaps this whole caregiving thing has done a number on your brain and that your mental health is as important as everyone else's. My friend was always quoting the Talmud: You must throw a life preserver to others, but you don't have to go down with their ship. (Or something like that.)
Your profile states that you are retired and have been married for 59 years.
You deserve to be able to have a break and do something nice for yourself.
Your family will be able to handle the situation at home. Please take care of yourself and a few days off to relax and enjoy your retirement. You’ve earned it!