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Have you called social services for your county to see if there's any in-home services he would qualify for, like light housekeeping, food prep and hygiene? Some help may be better than none at all. Plus another person in the house takes his focus off of you.
Everything about dementia is hard. Caregiving gets harder and harder.
Are you his PoA? Is anyone? Is so, read the document to see when your authority is activated. This may help you transition him to facility care, if this is something you are willing to consider. Then he gets all the care he needs and you get your life back.
If no one is his PoA, then definitely call social services and talk to a social worker. If he gets agitated, or does anything threatening to you (even just verbally) or has a delusion or hallucination, call 911 and tell them something's wrong with him. Once he's in the ER you tell the staff he is an unsafe discharge and then do not take him back home. This may or may not work if he appears to have "normal" cognition to them. He is allowed to go back to his legal residence. But this scenario is an opportunity to get him out and for you to create a change in the arrangement.
Cognitive impairment only gets worse and so does the person's behaviors and caregiving needs. You need to think through a realistic plan. I wish you clarity, wisdom and peace in your heart!
Your profile says that your dad suffers from depression. Is he getting any help for that, i.e. medication, therapy and the like? And why did you let him move in with you? It obviously isn't working for you, so perhaps it's time to be looking into assisted living facilities, or even independent living facilities(if his only problem is depression)for him where he be around other folks his own age, and have daily activities to go to, and have some fun. He doesn't sound like he's having much fun living with you, nor are you having any fun having him there so it's obviously time for a change. And I think it's probably you that is needing the "nerve pill" more than your dad, so again time to make some long overdue changes.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
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If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
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This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
It doesn't sound like your current situation is working for you OR for Dad.
How can we help you change it?
Just read your profile.
Having a parent living in our home can be quite stressful. I am so sorry that you are going through this.
Vent away, if you like. Many of us have vented about our family situation with a parent.
Do you have any specific questions for us?
Everything about dementia is hard. Caregiving gets harder and harder.
Are you his PoA? Is anyone? Is so, read the document to see when your authority is activated. This may help you transition him to facility care, if this is something you are willing to consider. Then he gets all the care he needs and you get your life back.
If no one is his PoA, then definitely call social services and talk to a social worker. If he gets agitated, or does anything threatening to you (even just verbally) or has a delusion or hallucination, call 911 and tell them something's wrong with him. Once he's in the ER you tell the staff he is an unsafe discharge and then do not take him back home. This may or may not work if he appears to have "normal" cognition to them. He is allowed to go back to his legal residence. But this scenario is an opportunity to get him out and for you to create a change in the arrangement.
Cognitive impairment only gets worse and so does the person's behaviors and caregiving needs. You need to think through a realistic plan. I wish you clarity, wisdom and peace in your heart!
And why did you let him move in with you? It obviously isn't working for you, so perhaps it's time to be looking into assisted living facilities, or even independent living facilities(if his only problem is depression)for him where he be around other folks his own age, and have daily activities to go to, and have some fun.
He doesn't sound like he's having much fun living with you, nor are you having any fun having him there so it's obviously time for a change.
And I think it's probably you that is needing the "nerve pill" more than your dad, so again time to make some long overdue changes.