I'm a bit upset with my dad over his recent change of giving medical POA and durable POA to my step-sister instead of me as his only child. They have put together a joint will instead of separating anything out for me if he were to die first. He says it's written up such that if he dies before her that everything will go to her and then upon her death the estate will be divided up between myself, my step sister, who has been made the executor of the estate, and my step brother. This leaves the possibility, I think, of my step mother writing me out of her will once my dad dies. He will not talk about this over the phone. All he says is that my step-sister is totally in charge now. I don't really trust her anymore than I do my stepsister for they are both opportunistic, dominating personalities and my step mother has been jealous of me my entire life. Any ideas about what I can other than just mentally cut my losses before they happen and move on with my life.
I wonder if I'm within my rights to request a copy of the POA's and at least know where a copy of my dad's will is if not even have a copy of it. I'm almost sure my step-sister and step-mom would personalize such a request, but from my perspective that would just be good, sound business.
I remember a poem that my step-mother wrote early in their marriage back in 1978 and read to my dad. The only part I remember was, 'in the end you will see that I have won.' Well, here we are 31 years later, and yes she has won. I fell sorry that my dad has allowed his guilt over the failure of his first marriage and fear of another one failing to make him such a 'yes, mam' for his wife as if he were to obey her like a child does their mother. Over the years, he has become less and less of the man that I once knew before they got married. The only man that I've ever seen treated any worse was my father in law whose wife only misses him for what he could and should be doing for her right now. The irony is that both my mother in law and step-mother believe in equal rights, but not according to how I see them treat people.