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It's not really a problem I think she might be trying to fit in? She's been going to a few activities in the dining room. Used to she would wear colorful tops and solid bottoms.She likes red. Today she asked me to bring her some white blouses.She has a few. I just emptied out her huge house and im trying to find room in my closets for. All of her clothes!! It's just funny.Im blessed that things are good right now.She is sleeping better and the food there is good.I'm one exhausted daughter, though.

Not sure what if anything is your concern here but count your blessings that your mom has adjusted so well to her new home.
And if it were me I certainly wouldn't keep all of her clothes to take up space in your closets. Just keep a certain amount of pants, shirts/tops, shoes and underclothing to get her through a few weeks. Then donate the rest to the charity of your choice.
I also have to ask...why are now so exhausted when your mom is receiving the 24/7 care she now requires in a nursing facility? Just because she's close to you doesn't mean that you have to visit every day you know. You can limit your visits to just a couple days a week, as her facility will contact you if an issue arises.

And on a side note, I'm not sure how practical white blouses or tops of any kind are very smart to have someone living in a nursing facility to wear as the odds of them dropping foods and drinks on them is 100%. Are you prepared to get the many stains out of them just to make your mom happy?
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I'm thinking mom is wanting to fit in with how the women at the SNF are dressing. My mother was very much like that herself when she lived in AL and even Memory Care.

Save some of moms clothing in those big plastic bags you can suck the air out of and store under the bed. Donate the rest, that's my suggestion.

Thank goodness things are going well! I'm sure you're exhausted from all you've been doing and from the relief of having mom placed. Take lots of down time for yourself now and enjoy the peace and quiet! 😁
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Funkygma, the exhaustion comes from trying to get her house ready to sell and then stopping by to visit every day which I didn't do the past two days and I'm still in clean out, donate, or keep mode all the time. Even going to see her I seem to be doing things when I'm tired.
The clothes are probably a non issue for most people. I think I just want to keep her happy still but that's working out too. She likes it there. I'm trying to beat the clock by selling the house to use for self pay.
The white blouses might be something she's requesting to have something to tell me to do. She might request all patterned blouses next week so I'll just see how it goes. And save a few of those.
I've gotten rid of a huge amount of her clothes. I'm still going through and donating in between clearing out the house.
Other problems with the house have come up (after all these years) that she knows nothing about. And I'm handling it best I can.
I've decided to just do what I can and rest in between. Fortunately the 'house' is almost completely empty and now I can start taking care of myself a little more.
Thank you for your replies and moral support. It means a lot.
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Rbuser, thanks for clarifying where your exhaustion is coming from. I'm sure getting your moms house ready to sell is exhausting especially if she was one to hang on to everything.
There is no need to have to visit her everyday, so I'm glad you didn't go the last several days. Please continue to cut back on your visits with your mom as you matter too in this equation.
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I cleaned out a 4 bedroom 123yr old farmhouse. So been there. Do not get too sentimental. Mom will not be returning to her home. I had 3 siblings and bought small moving boxes with lids. Each sibling got a box. As I cleaned out, I put what I thought they would want in their boxes. I gave a lot to local thrift stores and Habitat. The rest where but out for trash day.
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