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I've gotta tell you, I love you are three words that don't exist in my family, love was something that was implied and demonstrated through actions. On the other hand my SIL and her mother were constantly trading I love yous, but due to extreme family dysfunction they haven't spoken in years.
Funny you bring this up now. My friend and I were just having this conversation. I don't know if it is a generational thing but neither her parents nor mine were big "I love you" people. I describe my mother as distant. She never told me she loved me and I have no recollection of her hugging me or snuggling me as a child. She expressed her love by providing food on the table and a comfortable house.
On the other hand, I tell my kids that I love them between 1 - 100 times a day. We exchange hugs, snuggles and (for the 14 year old boy) horseplay.
About a year ago, my mother, during an extra messy poop cleanup, said "I love you" to me. It was the only time in my life that I recall her ever saying those words to me. I didn't say it back and probably never will.
My father and I bumped heads throughout our life. I always admired him for the genius of a man he was but he had bad communication skills. Finally, when he was about 75, he said something rude that he thought was funny but I certainly did not. I said to my Pops, When you pass away, do you want me to feel your loss or say, Oh well, Mom will miss him. The look on my fathers face and the tear that welled up in the corner of his eye, spoke volumes. From that moment on, my dad and I were best friends. So, what I'm trying to say is, sometimes our parents don't know how to express their feelings. My friend says if her parents were more like you the way you are with your children, things in her life may have been different. She didn't want any kids. That speaks volumes. She asked me to write how much she admires a mother like you
Thank you for asking this question. I have to say my experience is closer to the first two replies. In my family we never expressed or showed our emotions. In our culture there is a lot of restraint and reserve.
I desperately wished now I had told my dad before he passed how much I cherished and loved him. I wanted to thank him so much for being a good dad to me and my siblings. I hope he knew how much I cared. I tried to show it through my actions. I managed the household, the yard, the finances, all his care after his stroke. I don't think I did enough, but I hope he knew.
Spent 2 hrs with my stubborn, hard to show feelings type of guy dad at doc today. Sure there was some frustration during that time for me... I am slowly learning how to deal with the role reversal type of thing differently and choosing to cherish the moments I have left with my funny, bullheaded, ?early dementia?, mentally exhausting dad. I took him back home to assisted-living just in time for supper. Walking into the dining room with him he sits down at a table with several men who have became like the type of "coffee-shop" guys you see. I gave him a hug and told him I loved him. He patted my hand and said, "I love you too", and cried a little bit. When I looked up all the men were watching. My dad is legally blind from diabetes and did not know the attention was on he and I. If he could see, dad would've been embarrassed. He can see well enough to interact there at the table with his friends with friends. I have always been the one to approach my dad to give him a hug or tell him I love him, after many years of wondering why he was like that and making myself crazy with questions about it I finally just excepted that that's the way he was. At first giving him hugs felt very awkward, like I was hugging a board but now he is loosening up and I am thoroughly enjoying feeling that hug back, there's nothing like it. So,yesterday, when I did that in front of his friends while they were watching it felt so good for some reason it's hard to explain. The power of touch is amazing. The look in my dad's friends eyes was almost like disbelief, wow, is that tough guy over there really shedding a tear and saying I love you to his daughter? My two adult children, husband and I hug and say I love you every day and sometimes more....
Every day. Every day I tell my Gram she is amazing and I love her. Sometimes I know that she understood, other times I just know she heard me. So blessed!
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
On the other hand my SIL and her mother were constantly trading I love yous, but due to extreme family dysfunction they haven't spoken in years.
On the other hand, I tell my kids that I love them between 1 - 100 times a day. We exchange hugs, snuggles and (for the 14 year old boy) horseplay.
About a year ago, my mother, during an extra messy poop cleanup, said "I love you" to me. It was the only time in my life that I recall her ever saying those words to me. I didn't say it back and probably never will.
So, what I'm trying to say is, sometimes our parents don't know how to express their feelings. My friend says if her parents were more like you the way you are with your children, things in her life may have been different. She didn't want any kids. That speaks volumes. She asked me to write how much she admires a mother like you
I desperately wished now I had told my dad before he passed how much I cherished and loved him. I wanted to thank him so much for being a good dad to me and my siblings. I hope he knew how much I cared. I tried to show it through my actions. I managed the household, the yard, the finances, all his care after his stroke. I don't think I did enough, but I hope he knew.