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Dad says he's ready to move (sort of). Need to help him figure out how to start making the move. Memory problems, mobility issues, respritory problems. 15 pills per day. House is a burden. Lives alone 5 states away, won't move here.
You have a tough situation. 5 states away? Are there family & freinds able to help with the transition or will you be traveling? Is he a social guy? Being around people, peers, especially his age, really helps. My Dad felt I was warehousing him into independent living, until he met many of the other residents who had much in common.
Trying to encourage him to make the move from familiar territory is a challenge itself.
Some areas have teams of people who, for a price, will assist with downsizing. That was my nightmare. A house of memories, many mine, sorted out ~ saving the simple things he will require now. Letting go of 54 years of marriage with 4 grown kids.
Does he currently need or have assistance with his meds? Does he still drive?
Dad did while living at his apt. for years. Not far, but enough to feel independent. As his abilities declined he recognised other seniors who shouldn't be on the road, & surrendered his own keys.
Tell us more? I have my own personal experience & those other people that became our friends in his new dwelling. Activities & meals provided. A welcome relief! Other people on this wonderful site have lots to offer! Stay tuned?
You are fortunate that your father has initiated the process of looking into moving out of his house so that he won't feel as if you are coercing him into doing this. You can research senior communities in his area by going online and googling key words and phrases having to do with "senior living communities". Also you can call a local hospital in his area for information. You will need to look into what the costs will be, because some of these places cost far more than others. There is an organization called National Association of Senior Move Managers, which has a website online. For a fee, they can assist you with the move.
Have been talking to dad about moving for th past year. He still gets out and about to church, sr. center, social gatherings and drives for meals on wheels. He can live independently at this point but with bad knees and lungs I worry about him having to live on 3 floors. I don't know how ready he is to move. I worry about his safety at home. He is very forgetful, has become somewhat overly paranoid about nearly everything. He falls asleep by 6pm because he has no one to talk to. He's had a couple of fender benders, and admits he doesn't like cooking for himself. I've offered to come and help him start downsizing but he doesn't want to sell anything until he's ready to move, which could still be months away. He wants me to help clean up his gardens so he's not embarrassed about how his place looks. The inside is spotless thanks to some help and his desire for cleanliness. I've talked to him about independent housing, he's checked out several, but won't fill out paperwork to get on waiting list. Where do I go for help to get him to consider downsizing and moving sooner rather than later for his own safety.
Cvilardo, You have just described the situation exactly that I experienced with my parents. I saw "signs" and "signals" letting me know that they were getting weaker as they got older and inevitably one of them would fall, or some crisis would occur which would necessitate a move. My husband and I wanted to move them ahead of such a scenario (which sounds like you too). A friend once told me, in frank but loving terms: "It's only going to get worse." She was a nurse who also had an aging mother. I'm afraid that this has turned out to be the case with both my parents. I've read on this site where people recommend getting in-home help, as opposed to moving the elder. You could look into this also as an option. If you are decided on having your father move, then you need to continue to gently bring up the topic and allow him to explore and process this idea. It is a process and the senior needs time to adjust to the reality of needing to move. You could also begin investigating possibilities of living arrangements in his area.....online, with phone calls, and with visit. Eventually you could bring your father with you on a visit , have lunch there, meet with a representative, and so on. In my father's case, the fender benders were a sign that he needed to stop driving, and a relative stepped in and helped us tell him this. Good luck.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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Are there family & freinds able to help with the transition or will you be traveling?
Is he a social guy? Being around people, peers, especially his age, really helps.
My Dad felt I was warehousing him into independent living, until he met many of the other residents who had much in common.
Trying to encourage him to make the move from familiar territory is a challenge itself.
Some areas have teams of people who, for a price, will assist with downsizing. That was my nightmare. A house of memories, many mine, sorted out ~ saving the simple things he will require now.
Letting go of 54 years of marriage with 4 grown kids.
Does he currently need or have assistance with his meds? Does he still drive?
Dad did while living at his apt. for years. Not far, but enough to feel independent. As his abilities declined he recognised other seniors who shouldn't be on the road, & surrendered his own keys.
Tell us more?
I have my own personal experience & those other people that became our friends in his new dwelling. Activities & meals provided. A welcome relief!
Other people on this wonderful site have lots to offer!
Stay tuned?
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