Went to see mums shrink today (first time shes been seen by a so called shrink) when we got in there was a trainee shrink and a mental health nurse?
anyway mum put on her oscar winning performance! the young doc asked about her meds i told him she was on aricept but i had to take her off it as she was sick. He asked mum WHY was she taking this?? I said "excuse me" why would anyone be given aricept?
He then asked mum the usual questions "do you want to die?" "do you want to hurt anyone else?"
He then asked to speak to me alone said he didnt think she was showing any signs of dementia and seemed quite sharp soooooooooo i lost it i am still shaking..........i told him everything her hygiene,burning stuff on pan,leaving doors open at night. Obsessing,clutter, not getting dressed,sleeping all day,not taking her meds,eating crap,not excercising etc.............
He said he would speak to the head shrink or whatever and we had to wait an hour then she called me in and asked me my concerns i told her "oh i dont know shes got dementia is not safe alone and i cant do this for much longer alone".
Then she said im not seeing any signs of dementia but then that would be a matter for the geriatrician????????????????
Im sorry am i "NUTS" arnt shrinks supposed to determine whether or not someone is "MAD"?
She ended by saying that your mum seems very well dressed and articulate but we will take what you say into consideration. I told her to call up to the house tom.but be careful you dont get hit on the head by a flying colostomy bag!
I am beginning to think im a "NUTTER" maybe i need to be assessed?
I don't have much confidence in psychiatrists from my experience with them when caregiving for my mother as well. Only the people who know the patient well and on a daily basis are the ones to rely on. I too have had experiences with my mother and the psychiatrists she could fool - and yes, you would think they would be able to realize this. I also had the best support from her primary care doctor who knew her for years. Take care and hugs to you.
Why is it so important to you that they diagnose her with dementia? What difference does it make? If your family is not willing to spent money on her because you're there with her, what good is a mild dementia diagnosis? I'll tell you. It's worthless.
Why are you taking care of your mom? If you aren't doing it as your gift to her, then you should back off and let the family make other arrangements. If you are so overloaded by her care? Same thing.
My mom is pretty helpless. Like a child. I can have intelligent conversations with her even though she has dementia. But she's likely to wish me Happy Easter before the day's out. Ha! The reason I mention this is because I COULD NOT!! take care of my mom without Tom's help. He's my overload switch. If you are caretaking your mom alone, it's no wonder you are overwhelmed.
You sound overwhelmed. You come across overwhelmed. *shrug* Nobody's going to change that unless you do, Kazzaa. Demand help or back off and let the family step up big time.
I wish you well.
Great youre coping so cope and stop trying to give stupid advice to people makes my blood boil when we get these dogoodies giving this bs advice.
GREAT advice MM why dont we all on here just back off and run away you idiot.
Dont know where your crap comes from i was agreeing with your post but you obvioulsy you didnt read it right?
We are here for support and if you find my posts aggressive then TS arnt you just so damn great for coping with your mum what a great person you are and what a CRAP daughter i am.
seems its all tickity boo with you so why are you on here?
Id wish you well but you seem to be coping?