
She is now couch surfing wherever anybody will let her come and stay. She has already stayed with multiple family member's and burned her bridges. She does have a monthly income of $1600 a month from SSA that either gets spent by her ordering online un-needed items or my younger sister steals it from her. She has always been the type to take advantage of others and making people feel bad for her when she can’t get her way. My younger sister who has three kids ages 9,12 & 15 and is habitually homeless, also tags along with her when they find an unexpected soul that takes them in, or they move in with somebody that’s renting a house and the person moves out but they stay and have to be evicted within months because they tear up the house and don’t pay the rent! Am I wrong for giving up trying to help because I truly don’t know what to do anymore! People that don’t know her have actually asked why her family isn’t helping her, but because they don’t know what she has done in the past, we look like the bad guys🤔 we stay in Macomb County, Michigan and I have called adult protective services and they told me because my mom is of her own accord they could not help me. I have also called the police about my younger sister stealing money from my mom, but then my mom defends her and said that she gives it to her so that she will not get in trouble. All this is just crazy to me because my mom is pushing 80 years old and I don’t know what else to do.
Steer clear of this chaos. Your mother looked a gift horse in the mouth by getting evicted from subsidized housing, so now it's up to her to figure out what to do next.
She has not behaved responsibly, getting kicked out of everywhere she goes. I just feel badly for anyone who takes her in!
Please, don't YOU take her or your sister in! They are not your responsibility, just because you are related. What about your sister's 3 kids? Are they enduring this homeless nonsense? Are you or any other family member able and willing to take custody of the children? You can call Children's Protective Services and have them investigate. I would use caution, however, because I don't believe that separating children from their mother (even in non-ideal circumstances) is always better. Then, they end up in the Foster system, which may not be better for the kids.
I have a family member who took custody of her 3 grandchildren after reporting her daughter to DPS multiple times. I know the kids miss their mom, but they are in a much more stable environment.
For anyone who wonders why you are not helping your mom, there really is nothing you can do that will change her situation. You could provide housing for her, or give her money, and none of her current lifestyle will change. She is choosing to live this way, and there is nothing you can do about it!
You aren't responsible for her happiness. You didn't break her and you can't fix her. We don't get to pick our family members (like spouses or friends) but you can choose how much or little you interact with her. I suggest zero interaction. There's just no point.
So sorry for this situation. May you receive wisdom in choosing your boundaries and peace in your heart as you move on without them.