I moved my mother into my husband's and my home in November of 2005. She had fell at home and broke her hip. She was not able to live on own any longer anyway. This gave us an excuse to move her into our home. She was a very independent woman before the accident, but things have changed in the last few months.
Her short term memory is not good at all any more. She can not wheel herself around the house any longer.
She just got out of the hospital back in June about a 2 week stay with a blockage in her colon and then she contracted VRE. That is not fun to have in the home. I felt so sorry for her.
I am starting to have crying sessions it seems like every other day anymore. I do not see my mother any longer I see a person declining quickly. I am feeling overwhelmed and I don't think my family sees it. I have told them I need to get away for a few days, but that never seems to happen. No one has time to watch or be with mom except me. I am the only child so this is all on my shoulders. Her brother is not any help they have not spoke in several years now.
I do not know if I am just going through a stage or if I am starting to get depressed. I am with mom almost 24/7 except when a homemaker comes in daily. A person can go to Walmart just so many times to get out of the house. I seem to have lost my friends because I can not get together with them anymore.
This on-line discussion is a life line for me. This way I can communication with people and see how they handle different things that come up in their caregiving also.
So if anyone has advice please let me know how to get myself under control.
Losing Control
Mother is still plodding along she is in such pain all the time don't know what to do for her we both have doc appts monday so will see if she will do what the doc says this time NOT and I will get to talk to mine about my pain, yes I have it to but Ikeep on going I don't give in too easily to anything could I be stubborn? not me LOL but in a good way YES It's best not to give in to every little pain just keep pushing and get something accomplished. or lay down and die. I choose the first. Snow storm sounds so funny to me down here in georgia just planted my veggie garden nice spring weather highs 80's lows 60's open windows clothes on the line just like the good old days. Again Congrats NAUS so happy for you Have a great day everyone.
Carol
Mom said, "I don't want to talk about it; I'm trying to take a nap." She doesn't want to make a decision. I get to. Not a pleasant place to be. Already getting flack, and don't want more. So sad when it comes to this. I'm tired :( and I know Mom is. Thank God Dad and FIL are well-cared for...else you'd be seeing me in a psych ward...
I made a decision today. She's moving. And not into a new apartment. And not into ALF, but a nursing care facility. If doc won't help, I'll find one who will. We absolutely cannot go on like this. I drive down yet again on Monday Night. Mom has an appointment with a Cancer Specialist for a Consult on Tuesday. I will attend, then push whoever I can and do whatever it takes to see that Mom's needs are met. She's just not making it at home anymore. And she knows it. I tried to pin her down today, and she said, "I don't want to talk about it
Mary
Love thoughts and prayers for all of us.
Lazor, you sweet thing, your Mil is so lucky, and you are so good with her. Get some much needed rest.
Angel Anne! How are you doing, and your mom?
Neon! Keep making us laugh. And I enjoy your warm stories very much.
Have a good weekend all! God bless you all!
Gosh I even forgot to eat yesterday until last night. LOL BODY SHOCK. lol
Thank God for all of you listening and caring.
Susan yes listen to Anne get you some rest if you can even if its a few min here or there some of the stuff you have to do can wait. You need to be at least second on your list of things to do. Have a great one
Neon, smile! You're on candid camera.
One tired woman here
Susan