I moved my mother into my husband's and my home in November of 2005. She had fell at home and broke her hip. She was not able to live on own any longer anyway. This gave us an excuse to move her into our home. She was a very independent woman before the accident, but things have changed in the last few months.
Her short term memory is not good at all any more. She can not wheel herself around the house any longer.
She just got out of the hospital back in June about a 2 week stay with a blockage in her colon and then she contracted VRE. That is not fun to have in the home. I felt so sorry for her.
I am starting to have crying sessions it seems like every other day anymore. I do not see my mother any longer I see a person declining quickly. I am feeling overwhelmed and I don't think my family sees it. I have told them I need to get away for a few days, but that never seems to happen. No one has time to watch or be with mom except me. I am the only child so this is all on my shoulders. Her brother is not any help they have not spoke in several years now.
I do not know if I am just going through a stage or if I am starting to get depressed. I am with mom almost 24/7 except when a homemaker comes in daily. A person can go to Walmart just so many times to get out of the house. I seem to have lost my friends because I can not get together with them anymore.
This on-line discussion is a life line for me. This way I can communication with people and see how they handle different things that come up in their caregiving also.
So if anyone has advice please let me know how to get myself under control.
Losing Control
Judy I know its hard our prayers and concerns are with you. It is true she really can't help it, Mine makes lots of sounds to and when or if you bring it to her attention she tells you she never said anything its my imagination, Well I have some imagination she doesn't have to add to it LOL
I see on another thread edrex is having a tough time lets all pray for him, we who have been in similar situations know it will all work out in the end. Well better get to work. Please have a good day, hug yourself and tell yourself what a wonderful job you are doing if you don't well I just did. NEON
Susan
Anne, thank you so much!
Neon, I loved the song, thank you!
Thank you all for all of your compassion, and kind words. You all lift me up, when I'm down. God Bless all of you here on this site that read and post. I hope you don't think this corny, but I have to say "I Love You Guys!" Don't get nauseated by this LOL. Good Night!
Nauseated
Happy Birthday to you
Happy Birthday to you
Happy Birthday Dear Nauseated
Happy Birthday to you
Happy birthday to you
happy birthday to you
happy birthday take two tums and call me in the morning
and maybe you won't be nauseated tomorrow
I know it don't rhyme but that's my quirky sense of humor Neon
Gosh I sound coniving here!!!
1 1/2yrs, and needs to be spayed. I'm not spending the money she says. Now she wants to sell dog. She tells me today, on my birthday that she has found someone that wants her, her name fits her personality "Sweetie". My husband, even though letting me babysit this dog everyday, and sometimes on weekends, will not let me have this dog. I have been bawling my eyes out since this morning and can't stop. My 12yr old daughter has also fallen in love with this dog. My husband refuses to let a dog live in the house. She does not shed, she is well behaved, follows me around everywhere, lays down wherever I am working and waits for me to get done. My Dad likes this dog too, one of the few things that actually makes him smile these days. I'm glad a family wants this dog, that will pay more attention to her, but at the same time I am devastated that I will never see her again, even though I am having a baby grandson within a few weeks to a month. Now that I have totally exposed myself, I'm going to feel silly. This should be a post for "Laughter in the midst". Nauseated
Take care everyone
But the bottom line is - how long can you do this? You do need help. It's likely time to tour nursinig homes in your area.
Carol
Nauseated
Let me dream for the moment lol