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New to this site; seems very helpful. Learning what to do to get prepared for the future. I just don't want to get overwhelmed and lose what sanity I have gained through previous and recent therapy.
Congratulations Jinger. The best gift you can give your parent is to open your eyes and plan for what is to come. I don't see what it is that your mother is facing but the sooner you organize everything the easier it will all be. You should start by assembling all of her advance directives (they will vary state by state) and obtain power of attorney, if you don't already have one. If she doesn't have her estate in order, do so asap too. If you can afford it, get help putting all this together because it is very time consuming and your time is probably best spent keeping sane and enjoying some fun with your mom. Best of luck!
She has a will already drawn up. She has credit card debt which is not good, but it probably exceeds her savings (not good). She thinks the credit balance will be written off when she passes, but I would like it will come out of her estate. No long-term care policy. May have to do a reverse mortgage if she needs a nursing home. That way I can still live in the house (I have nowhere else to go unless out of state with my son. Can't take care of her that far away. House and one car paid for; other car is leased (not the best decision). I am buying items that I will need to take care of her: bibs, bed table, bedside commode, plate guard, etc. She already has elevated toilet seat and rails, walker, cane, reacher. I am a former occupational therapy assistant, so I have an advantage there. She has been having tremendous anxiety lately. That is the hardest thing to deal with so far, for her and for me. I don't have power of attorney yet, but I am a co-signer on her checking account. After researching information and joining this site, I think I am doing pretty well with my plans.
Jinger, Here are a few thoughts for you and places to call. some of them may not be helpful but may be able to point you in the right direction. It seems to me that you must first start with a comprehensive list of what needs to be done To get that list, you will need to have some frank discussions with your mom and perhaps other members of your family as well. You need to know what her financial situation is, specifically. You indicated you are spending your $$ on her equipment and needs. Unless money is no object at all, you should be approaching this a bit more methodically. Has she seen a financial planner recently to figure out her income stream? Does she have long term care insurance? Do you want to live with her? Does your son? In whose name is her house? Be careful of a reverse mortgage as they can blow up on you when you least are able to deal with these things. Also, make it a priority to obtain all the powers of attorney, health care proxy, advance directives, etc taht you will need. A number of books give uou a complete list of what you need to have on hand (mine is coming out but not yet published so I can't send you one yet!). If there is a social worker involved, ask if she has a list. Also, contact the Louisiana council on Aging They should be able to point you in the right direction at the very least.
Do you have people to help you? There is an excellent book entitled Caring for your elderly parent that has most of the list information you need, although you will still need it tailored to Louisiana law, which is unique. But it has great advice for people like you as you embark on the journey with your parent. In case you do't pick up the book, one of the best insights it gives is to be sure to take care of yourself and laugh and get help as you may have a long and bumpy road ahead.. Let me know if you have trouble finding it or need anything else. Kindest regards.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
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If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
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This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
Here are a few thoughts for you and places to call. some of them may not be helpful but may be able to point you in the right direction. It seems to me that you must first start with a comprehensive list of what needs to be done To get that list, you will need to have some frank discussions with your mom and perhaps other members of your family as well. You need to know what her financial situation is, specifically. You indicated you are spending your $$ on her equipment and needs. Unless money is no object at all, you should be approaching this a bit more methodically. Has she seen a financial planner recently to figure out her income stream? Does she have long term care insurance? Do you want to live with her? Does your son? In whose name is her house? Be careful of a reverse mortgage as they can blow up on you when you least are able to deal with these things. Also, make it a priority to obtain all the powers of attorney, health care proxy, advance directives, etc taht you will need. A number of books give uou a complete list of what you need to have on hand (mine is coming out but not yet published so I can't send you one yet!). If there is a social worker involved, ask if she has a list. Also, contact the Louisiana council on Aging
They should be able to point you in the right direction at the very least.
Do you have people to help you? There is an excellent book entitled Caring for your elderly parent that has most of the list information you need, although you will still need it tailored to Louisiana law, which is unique. But it has great advice for people like you as you embark on the journey with your parent. In case you do't pick up the book, one of the best insights it gives is to be sure to take care of yourself and laugh and get help as you may have a long and bumpy road ahead.. Let me know if you have trouble finding it or need anything else.
Kindest regards.