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Happy B'day to your mom on the other side Llama!
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Happy Birthday to the November birthday people!
I know at least two, but I have temporarily lost track of the exact date.

HAPPY BIRTHDAY anyway,
in a sincere loving way!
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way - good luck with mil and the POA. making any progress?

We are in the "below freezing" weather now - hovering around OC (32F). I think fall is over.

nacy - I can relate to the "small town" thing. We had a lovely husky cross who was an escape artist. He could open the lobster claw clasp on his leash and did regularly to tour the neighbourhood. But he was a sweetie. Came home one day to find him in his enclosure nicely leashed with a note from the bylaw officer. "What a nice dog. Try to keep him in." Another time the bus stopped opposite the house and the driver came out with Mooch, hanging onto his collar and brought him to the door. "He's Dave's dog isn't he? " Dave is my middle son and was well known to the bus driver and well liked by everyone.

On my mind, I wish I could wake up faster. Some days it takes me hours before I am "with it". Until then I have to drink coffee and fake it. never had that problem earlier in my life.

Tuesday we have workers coming to install new condensate lines for the new high efficiency furnace we will eventually have to get. The furnace room in out on the balcony and, though small, also useful for extra storage. Next 10 lb bag of jumbo carrots goes there. Yes I will - they were great carrots, a great price, and have kept well.
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Gershun: Thank you!
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Golden: I'll pray that you can wake up faster. Do you take any sleep medications?
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Update: Home health has been great with OT assessment (not needed), PT twice weekly and RN's. The RN assessed a tailbone pressure sore yesterday, which was really great in the fact that I didn't have to go to an urgent care clinic (I was doing everything right with the sore and it never ulcerated).
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Llama - glad home care is going well.

Thank you. No, I don' t take any sleep meds. I usually wake up in the middle of the night for a few hours then go back to sleep. I am just feeling a sore throat and have been cold today, so maybe that made it worse.
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Golden: Thank you; home health has been a godsend.
My goodness - that is difficult to wake up and then get back to sleep. Prayers for your sore throat to get better. Wrap up in a warm blanket.
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wishing us all good health!!
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i just watched a true crime movie. should NOT have done that. now i’m afraid to walk around in my own home; any creaky noise.

must go back to watching my usual innocent, feel-good rom coms. will watch one RIGHT AWAY.
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Bundle, this is why I never watch scary, dark or even suspenseful content. I don't even watch something if I know it has an unhappy or vague ending (I usually force my sons to give me the "spoiler" so I can know). IMO life is stressful and sad enough so why would I put more of that into my head?? Now I watch what is called Kdrama (Korean dramas and romcoms) w/subtitles. They are mostly formulaic but usually have 16 episodes that are 1 hr long each. They are wholesome and engaging, equivalent to our "Hallmark" channel shows. I think many of the plots are a little more clever and I enjoy learning about aspects of Korean culture that are in each series. Plus there is lots and lots of content. I watch on Netflix and my Viki.com subscription. Hulu, AppleTV and Disney+ also have Korean content.

( My exception has been the Harry Potter movies, which are so well done.)
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To bond with one of my sons, ten years ago, I started watching walking dead. I ended up really liking it and getting so involved in it. 😁

After the nightmares, I don't watch that stuff after dark
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On my mind is, finally feeling like I'm getting a bit ahead of house cleaning.
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I can still handle scary and suspenseful tv but I’ve given up on sad books. I just got surprised with one and had to stop reading as soon as the wonderful, loving, wise and sweet guy said his back hurt.
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Peasuep, I was actually doing caregiveing and use to take this guy to the library, one time I was so engaged in this book, I was bawling my eyes out, totally forgot I was in public.

Yeah with 4 boys, I'm very desensitized with that stuff
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I can't wait to move to another state. My mom and I reached loggerheads today. I tried to show her some music from Wicked I liked. She said it has no rhyme and how could I like it. Okay, fine, we have different tastes. She has a chair in the room I sat in. Well, she told me I stink and spent two hours scrubbing the chair and the room. One of my dogs had a pee accident and she flipped and told me what a slob I am. I am done. Just done.
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Doggiemom, I think many people realize they can't go back home, after they do.

It's not healthy for mom or you. We all get a bit set in are ways the older we ger
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I'm concerned with my daughter in-law , she is way to thin. I noticed it last year, and it's just gotten worse.

She looks fragile, and weak. I think it disturbs me so much because she reminds me of me at her age.

I just don't know if I should say something or sometimes it makes it worse.

I know there is no good answers, and I have to think on this, it's just much on my mind.
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Doggiemom, do you think your mom knows how awful she is to you? Not that that makes any difference to you, on the receiving end, I’m just curious.
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Nacy, that’s scary. Are you close? Would mentioning it to your son be appropriate or be seen as a betrayal? Are you concerned about anorexia or something else?
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Yes, I am, I had food issues at her age, we are not close, actually we get a long great, but don't see each other a lot, which is why we get a long so well.

I don't think going to my son is the answer, because my eating issues, was due to my unhappiness in my marriage. I don't know if that's it or not but I feel like going to him isn't the best place.

When I didn't want to eat, not a lot helped. If people came to me, then I'd push them away. Her sister battles or did anorexia. So I'm really unsure, I doubt if there is anything I can do.
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Ah, I see. I honestly don’t know what I would do in your situation either. If you know your DIL’s mother or a sibling it might be appropriate to mention you’re concerned about her health but that could also be construed as meddling. This is a hard one and may only get more difficult the longer it continues. I’m sorry you’re in this predicament.
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Not really to her it’s all helping me. My brother is super OCD and so is she. Anything that falls below their level of clean is less a slob. Being told you “stink” and having to clean a chair hurts. I have never repaid my family for helping me move even though I have offered money. At this point, I think my dogs deserve better to get away from the stress. All I’ll hear is how grateful I should be I have my mother alive.
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That’s just awful. I don’t blame you for wanting to get as far away as you can. Think how much free time she’ll have when she doesn’t have to spend it cleaning up after you….good grief. I’m sorry for you “and your little dog, too!”
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OCD is tough, we can't know what it's like to have it. I'm sure it's a struggle, at times

You want to drive an OCD person crazy put them in a room with a dyslexic. 😂🤣
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On my mind…

🥰 Meeting someone accidentally,
then having them become a huge part of your life.
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i’ll be taking a break from the website. i’ll return. huggggg.

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BOJ: Thanks for letting us know so we don’t worry.
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I had a long talk with my mother and she agreed that moving will be good for us. She can be closer to her sister, but I'm a senior living apartment (I think she's not cut out for living with someone else). My aunt has dogs, so she says she can like dogsit without ownership. I realized I'm more independent at 38 than 16 years ago. I think my mom would benefit from senior groups so she could help others by baking or having book groups.
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DoggieMom, that is so great for both you and your mom! Congratulations! Time to go enjoy a more carefree life!
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